I know, I know, this sounds so bloody stupid but I swear that by the end of this post you will completely agree. Selfishness is comforting when you look at it in a particular way. And I’m almost certain that if you are someone who has hit rock bottom and ended up looking at motivational shit then you will have read that people don’t really concentrate on you all that much because we as humans are wired to only care about ourselves or some shit like that.

So why is that comforting? Why should you like the fact that nobody gives a shit about stuff that doesn’t affect them? Because they don’t give a shit! It is literally in the question. You can do whatever the hell you feel like and people will forget it in a second because they are back to focusing on themselves. Even if they aren’t outwardly selfish, we are wired to think and worry about ourselves and that is what we will do. We always overthink everything we do and wonder how people perceive us but they don’t. They don’t perceive us. They may have things to say and shit like that which I know sucks but overall it isn’t important. The most important thing in everyone’s life is themselves so while they might dwell on stupid, irrelevant shit, they are gonna move on and completely forget.

I have to admit that sometimes when people say that it can be quite depressing. I mean here is me literally telling you that nobody cares about what you wear or what you do and nobody gives a shit, but like you just gotta train yourself to see that in a good light. You can go out and wear what you want, do what you want, and be yourself because while people may have opinions and maybe they will say some shit behind your back or to your face but you just gotta realise that we as a species are selfish. Eventually, they are gonna forget but if they don’t they will eventually die and it’s hardly gonna be a family story that will be passed down from generation to generation. There isn’t gonna be a whole history topic about how you fell off a chair that one time, or how you had a bad hair day.

Let’s test something out. What is the most embarrassing thing you have ever seen someone else do? Did you answer it? OK, then what was the most embarrassing thing that you have ever done? If you are like me, you couldn’t think of anything embarrassing someone else did. Maybe it was something random like I think I saw this person trip up the stairs that one time in school, but do you remember who it was? Do you remember what they did after it happened? What do you really remember from that situation? Probably nothing and that is because it doesn’t matter. If we stick with the selfish shit, I can only really remember how I reacted and that’s if I could remember a situation at all. And while I don’t know all the science shit about brains and memories, but I know it’s a fucking smart organ, so I’d guess it wouldn’t store all that pointless crap. It just wants to survive and I don’t think that memory is something you need.

So next time that you go out, you go out with confidence and purpose because no matter what happens, nobody will make fun of you for it when you are 80. I would say that if they have as bad a memory as me that they wouldn’t even remember it in the morning. I dare you to just be yourself. Wear whatever the hell it is you want to wear. Maybe a funky pair of jeans, a top that makes you feel sexy, fucking socks and sandals! You do you bitch! Everyone is too selfish to care and that is one of the best things in the world. And if anyone seems like they are bothered by it for more than one second then they are jealous. They just want to be you because as I said, we don’t remember things that don’t affect us, so they obviously just want to become you!

Do you understand what I mean now? Selfishness is probably one of the greatest things we can remember when we feel scared to do something or embarrassed to dress a certain way. You can do what you want and people won’t even care or remember. If they didn’t remember you it’s probably because you inspired them to try out new fashion items or to be loud and proud. So you start the movement bitch! Go do whatever the hell you feel like and never apologize. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.

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