I was in one of my weird patches the other day and I was scrolling through my social media (as is normal during a breakdown) and I saw some things that kinda maybe didn’t help me at all, but it got me thinking about how we can guess things with a pretty solid argument for it, yet it could be completely wrong. Obviously, I’ll give you an example and a better explanation of it, but what I want to get across is that although we can take an educated guess, it is still a guess and not a fact. So while we may think it makes sense, we are probably still not right (not offend your intelligence)
Example of The Stupid of Educated Guesses
Trying to be as vague as possible as to not expose me or the other person (despite the fact they most likely do not know this blog exists and even if they did they probably wouldn’t realise anything and not give a shit), I went onto Snapchat and one of the people I follow had put something up on their story and was saying how proud of themselves they were for being able to do something that they find hard. I too find it hard to do what they just did and usually when I do it I don’t feel proud so I was like “oh shit why am I literally not even trying to get better at said thing? I’m just not trying hard enough and I’m such a failure and will never get to the place they are. And they are proud of themselves but I never feel that way so I must be such an annoying fucking inconvenient person :)”.
So basically after I saw their post I assumed that they were overwhelmed with excitement and absolutely exceeding in life because duh, they literally said they were “so proud” that they did it. It makes sense to think they were happy and moving on with life, right? So then I went to think all those shite things when in reality that was one singular post, not even a video. They could have been having such a hard time beforehand, during it, and for a while afterwards. That’s amazing they are proud and I am proud of them too but I’m sure they felt a lot more than that. So what if we are at different stages anyways? I’ll just need to work on that part and move on. I can’t assume that everything in their life is looking up despite the fact one post may suggest that. It’s ridiculous.
To be honest, I don’t know if it’s meant to be a “double-edged knife” but this is what we have for today so get over it. But back to the main topic, let’s talk about how educated guesses can be harmful to both people again in terms of social media because, let’s be honest, it is the root of most problems lol.
Whenever we think about Kim Kardashian or any celebrity, we think they have it all. They post absolutely amazing photos of all the cool things they are doing or planning to do and, let’s face it, a lot of us, if not all, want to be in the same position where we can have everything we want or need. And we know as a fact that let’s say, the Kardashian’s have everything they desire and live the perfect, ideal life, right? I mean they’ve got the cars and the money and the houses to show it. They would never feel sad or worried about anything and have the best carefree life ever, but you don’t. Why wouldn’t we think this way? I mean we have the evidence to support it.
But we fail to realise that, like any human, Kim struggles too and doesn’t have the perfect lifestyle that we think she does. We don’t know what happens to get each dollar to her purse or to get each family photo. Have you seen “Keeping up with the Kardashian’s”? Arguments EVERYWHERE! And obviously, they get over it but it’s still draining I’m sure. I’ll try not to put all the focus on the Kardashian’s because this isn’t about them specifically, but what I’m trying to say is that all that money and success doesn’t equal happiness and a perfect life despite the fact that is what we are brought up to think. I can only assume that these celebrities or rich people probably feel like shit and are confused by the fact they don’t feel happy or successful even though they have everything they wish for and people saying they have a perfect life. How confusing and painful must that feel? To feel as though you are ungrateful and weird for not being happy in the life you are living.
I’m not trying to make this a post about defending rich people and I don’t know why that bit got so deep, but do you see what I mean? Both people on each side of this story have a justified reason for why they feel a certain way but both people are getting it wrong. The people that think celebrities have a perfect life and feel bad for not having one like it are wrong, and the celebrities that feel they are weird for still having problems despite the life they live are also wrong. So in the end both people get hurt.
We don’t really know how people feel and that’s the bottom line. It all comes back to that. Although you can make an educated guess in a situation and have solid evidence, you are not always right. I thought that the person on my Snapchat had found the solution to something that I would never figure out as well, but that is probably false. We make assumptions about people having perfect lives, yet nobodies life is perfect. I remember a phrase from a youtube video that went something like this, and it may not be 100% correct but it’s a summary
“One day a man was driving home from work as a Lamborghini sped alongside him. He looked at the man in the fancy car and thought about how much better his life would be if he had that type of money if he could be the man in the fancy car. But in that same moment, the rich man was wondering about which lampost he should wrap his fancy car around”
That may seem dark but it makes sense. Just because we see one thing, doesn’t mean we know the whole story. And although we may have been taught certain things about success, doesn’t mean they are right. So before you start to beat yourself up about something or make an educated guess about someone’s life and situation, just really think it through in your head. Is that really true?
So to round it off and summarise this kinda shit show of a post, I just want you to know that putting two and two together doesn’t always leave an accurate result. You need to look at the whole picture and even though you may feel like deep down you are correct, that isn’t always the case. You need to focus on the word “feel” because you may feel like it’s true but you don’t always 100% know. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.
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