See, I don’t really like it when people are cheeky to me. I mean you can be upfront and shout at me and I’ll be fine with that. My sisters have conditioned me to that. But if you are being passive aggressive or cheeky in front of me or behind my back, I won’t hesitate to fight.
No this isn’t coming out of the blue guys, but something I did yesterday kinda got my blood boiling if you get me. Anyways, here I was at my friend’s house for moral support because I was about to call my work and be like “hey girl so for medical and educational reasons I’m not gonna be able to work more than 8 hours a week but obviously I can work more on holidays thanks”, and here my manager does the longest sigh ever, literally I could almost smell her stinking breathe it was that loud, and I was like shit what is about to happen. Then this bitch really stops the sigh and goes “that’s not really helpful for us”
😮 Did I ask?! No I think the fuck I didn’t so why the hell did you have to say that. Would you prefer I didn’t work any hours? Do you want me to quit because I’ll be more than happy to get out of this bitch. Like I actually don’t even like work. When I tell you I was shocked, I mean I was back-from-war-tazer-in-the-back shocked. I still am at the moment tbh.
But anyways, after that, I paused because I was in denial at that stage or something and then I was just like “Ummm well… It’s for medical reasons as well” because my doctor told me to say that so she legally couldn’t fire me for it (I also wouldn’t care if she did because then id use and never have to work again, I’m not too proud to miss that opportunity bitch) and here she was acting all nice again, miss cheeky bitch tryna get on my good side again. Like I actually have to go to work with her today and if she comes up to me and starts talking shit, I will happily throw hands. I mean I’m terrified of her too, let’s not get ahead of ourselves, but she barely knows me and doesn’t know how hard I can hit. BTW this is a joke don’t be calling the police
Anyways yeah that happened and it really made me realise how much I HATE, despise, loath, work. Do I get paid minimum wages to only get a 20 min break during illegal hours?! I think the fuck not. Like I have enough money saved to get my ass out of that hoe and I only stay cause I want my parents to be proud of me lol. But you have to admit what she said was petty uncalled for. Like it was not necessary. I actually despise the working world and it sucks the little bit of life and dignity inside of me.
So what do you guys reckon I should do? Quit or just realise that this is life. Also if anyone is like a law person, is there any way I could use for doing illegal hours with only a 20 minute break. I mean that would be ideal lol. Hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.
I haven’t posted in a while, obviously, and I ain’t gonna explain why because it’s more boring than you think. It’s not like I went on a fucking trip to the Bahamas despite the fact I hope to go there some day if corona ever goes away. But anyways, a lot has happened like me … Continue reading Train wreck of thought
Now, I can’t really talk for the guys on this topic because, being a girl, I have never been to a guys sleepover and no matter how old I am, my mother will never ever let me go to one. So if this is different for guys, if you even play sleepover games, do please … Continue reading Sleepover Games Are Sh!t | Let’s Discuss It
First of all, to the people who are in the comments right now saying “It’s makeup and I, not makeup and me” literally take you Hermione Granger ass outside or “I” will personally make Jeff Bezos land his fucking dick rocket on you. I mean would you slate Marley and Me for the grammar issue? … Continue reading Makeup and Me
You’ve heard of NLP?
It’s almost cultish.
It stands for neuro-linguistic programming and it’s like someone had taken the best out of all forms of psychotherapy, threw them in a blender and created NLP.
If you don’t get what I’m saying, NLP is two things.
First, it is a way of thinking. It’s a framework for how to approach your life to be more effective. It’s like a philosophy of life based on understanding how your brain functions.
Second, it is a psycho-therapy tool. It’s used to treat phobias and to change beliefs in patients. Some consider it as effective as CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy) and most say it’s a lot faster than the Freudian school of thought.
Because at the core of NLP lies hypno-therapy. To be more specific, the “behavioral changing” part of NLP is built on the teachings of Milton Erickson, one if not the most famous hypnotherapists of all times. And you know what hypno-therapy does?
It’s an access, a hack, to your subconscious mind
Let me give you this analogy. Imagine your mind being like a computer. Your conscious mind is accessing programs, turning it on and off and so on. Normal user access. Your subconscious mind is like going into the settings, installing applications, deleting them, adding new users and so on.
It’s the “engine” or the “back room” that controls everything.
Well, NLP is like a hacker that can break the password of your subconscious mind and change there. It allows you to change beliefs and to change who you are, as a person, to your core. It goes to those deep thoughts and ideas you don’t even know you have and makes you act differently by tweaking your basic concepts of self.
It hijacks your subconscious mind, and it does it very well.
And with the use of NLP you can eliminate phobias, you can change basic preferences (as not liking chocolate anymore) or you can even cure wounds from the past, as those from childhood. It’s effective. It works well, and it’s endorsed by some of the best-known authors in the world. Tony Robbins built his career and success on NLP and if you run a survey amongst successful people, you’ll see that many of them are NLP practitioners or masters.
So why am I telling you this?
If NLP is like a hacker that tweaks your subconscious mind so you can become the person you want to be, if NLP is like a design tool that allows you to redesign who you are, then brainwave entrainment is a tool that makes it faster and easier.
If NLP is the thief that breaks the lock-pick, then the use of brainwave entrainment with it is like having the best lock-pick in the world, making the process effortlessly.
And what does this mean for you?
Use them both. Use the amazing power of NLP to change beliefs and self-identity concepts and use the power of brainwave entrainment to help your subconscious mind be receptive and open. Open the door with brainwave syncing and change the furniture with NLP.
A simple way to understand this is music.
Think about it and how easy it has the power to change you. You listen to a song and you’re not even paying attention to the lyrics. And yet, if it’s a sad song, you become sad. If it’s a lively song, it boosts your energy. If you listen it many times, you end up thinking like in the song.
Music is a great example of a tool that accesses your subconscious mind without even realizing. You turn on YouTube and through repetition and emotion, you end up being one with the music.
Have you tried reading a book you had no interest in reading? Maybe for college or work?
You read the words; they are verbalized in your mind but you end up forgetting everything. They “enter one year and exit another”. This is because your subconscious mind is as closed as it gets and learning can not happen in your conscious dimension.
Brainwave entrainment is amazing for helping your mind operate at that higher frequency. They’re like Vitamin C for your life, making everything better. And if you use brainwave entrainment, this is enough to attract, to manifest good things in your life because you’ll be operating at a higher level.
True, lasting change comes not by attracting things in our lives but by changing who we are so those things become a natural order. It’s when we change our beliefs and ideas so we transform into people for whom success and happiness are two natural things.
And this is where NLP works so well. It works for everything from curing phobias of spiders to getting past PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) to program you to be more confident in front of a crowd or to be more assertive with your coworkers.
This is because while short-term wins are great – if you want a successful life, you must become the person who is naturally successful. And the only difference between you and a successful person is that the other one developed the beliefs and identity of such a person. If you develop them too, there’s nothing stopping you from doing just.
I build my program “Manifestation Magic” around NLP.
Each audio contains hidden embedded commands that reprogram your subconscious mind. Like a good hacker, brainwave syncing is opening the path to your subconscious mind while NLP commands are transforming who you are into the best version you could ever be.
These are called “NLP patterns” and they’re designed to be as easy to receive by the subconscious mind as possible. I do this through a combination of pacing, intonation and wording so your mind can accept them as commands, as truth, without getting defensive. It’s like music, just so much more powerful.
Basically, an NLP pattern is what a hypno-therapist would tell you to put you into a trance. It is highly suggestive language that bypasses your rational filters to reach where it matters most, your subconscious mind.
NLP plus brainwave entrainment is like having a hacker change your mind. NLP alone can access your subconscious thoughts but when paired with brainwave entrainment, the results are mind blowing. You can see a real change in days when all other methods you’ve tried for a long time like therapy failed.
This is the secret behind “Manifestation Magic”.
This is why it works. It works because instead of just using brainwave entrainment to help you operate at a higher frequency, at a higher vibration, it also changes who you are at your core. The result is a total personal transformation into the person you’ve always wanted to be but never known how.
Click on the link below to discover more about how “Manifestation Magic” can help you.
Have you always wanted to become a singer? Many people dream of singing, but few take the steps required to learn. Here are some quick tips that will teach you how to learn singing, on your own or with assistance:
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Before you begin, listen to a lot of different songs in many genres. This will help you settle on a style that best suits your voice and personality. Do you want to sing rock music? Opera? Maybe country and western or rhythm and blues suits your style best.
Next, start practicing to find your natural vocal range. Sing a note that you can comfortably hit. Then sing progressively higher notes until your sound quality decreases. Go back to the first note and then sing down the scale to find the bottom of your range.
This is an informal exercise, but it will help you get an idea of which notes you can comfortably sing, and which ones you need to work on.
Many vocalists teach themselves to sing. Learning to sing by listening to other singers, without formal training, is called ‘singing by ear’. While some classically trained vocalists frown on this approach, it can lay the foundation for strong pitch recognition.
The problem with learning to sing by ear is that you can develop bad habits that are difficult to break later in life. Professional lessons can be expensive, though. Many singers find middle ground by using self-study courses.
Self-study singing courses typically contain videos or audio files that guide you through warm-ups and vocal exercises. They can help you expand your lung capacity, control your breathing, increase your vocal range, and sing smoothly across your vocal breaks.
If you decide to go this route, read reviews before you purchase a product. Some systems are better than others, so user reviews can be very helpful. You can find self-study singing courses online, or at your local library or book store.
If you would prefer to do your learning face-to-face, consider signing up for singing lessons. Look for voice coaches in your area, or get a referral from friends who have had a good experience with a particular instructor.
If the cost of voice lessons is a little steep for your budget, try joining a choir at your school, church, or community center. This will give you access to an instructor and other singers that you can trade tips and techniques with.
After you’ve spent some time practicing, you might decide that you really enjoy singing and want to do more of it. It can be a little daunting to sing solo when you’re accustomed to singing with a group, but a little practice will decrease nervousness.
You can use your self-study course or your instructor to learn advanced techniques like perfecting your head voice, reaching into your falsetto range, and developing a vibrato. You will also learn to read music and transpose your favorite songs into a different key so that you can sing them easily.
Now you know how to learn singing without putting a huge dent in your bank account. Have fun experimenting with different musical styles and gaining confidence in your voice!
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Hi, if you don’t know me, I am a straight white teenage girl with no disabilities and just a mental health problem. What does that mean? That means that the only discrimination I have faced is being a woman. Now, there has been problems with sexism at the moment, but over all I have got it pretty easy. But I want to use that to help others too. And the only way I really know how to do that would be to use this platform to get people to listen.
That is where my next problem comes into play. How am I supposed to help when I know very little about what you guys go through and what YOU want me to do. Because I could write a whole essay about equality, but it would do fuck all because I don’t know what you guys really want us to do. So please, no matter what it is that you go through, whether it is a disability, race, sexuality, anything, can you please comment below something that you guys want us, the people who are can use your privilege to help, to do in order to help you guys or just be aware of certain things. You can leave a story about a time where you were discriminated against and say what you would have wanted someone to do to help, or just state anything. If you are comfortable of course.
I’m going to admit, I know very little about what others go through but I want that to change. I mean I am a sympathetic person but I also feel stuck on what to do and sometimes I can be a bit ignorant. On TikTok there was this guy with a stutter and was talking about how saying “did I stutter” was insulting. And I had said these before and didn’t think anything from it. So please educate me and everyone else on the internet because although we will never know what you go through and how you feel, I want to be able to do the most I can to make you feel safer or more included in the world.
So I am sorry if I sound like your basic bitch trying to get clout or something. This is not a trend, this is a real life problem and I would appreciate it so much if you guys could help spread awareness. But yeah, that is pretty much it. Just know that you are perfect just the way you are. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT
Here is the thing with people. Most of them can’t take a fucking hint. Say I wanted to even just go to a park, I could say ‘going to the park now would be fun’ and they would be as clueless as I am during an English test. And now I know that you are going to say that “girls are so confusing, when they say one thing, they mean the other” and you know, maybe at some times, but sometimes it is so fucking clear that a bird would fly into it. That was a pretty bad metaphor, but you get the idea.
This has happened for every single man I have talked to, although to be fair that isn’t that many lol. But the thing is that they never get what I mean. Now I don’t know why this is. Maybe it is because men are used to people just being straight up, or they literally don’t get it, but it is so aggravating. You guys out there will be telling us to just say what we mean, but that isn’t always easy. We try to not be so direct because, maybe, we want someone to do something for us because they understand us and what we want. Or maybe it is a difficult topic to talk about. I know that sometimes, for me, I am not straight up because I want to trick myself into thinking that they came up with the idea themselves and they actually care about me. I guess that kind of sums up my old relationship, but it is true. I mean, you guys should relate to this, right? You have been taught to hide your emotions and “be a man” and, although I am not comparing your problems to ours, we still feel anxious to open up fully. I think it is kind of common for everyone.
The thing that aggravates me though is that it never processes in their brain. You can see in their eyes that what your just said has slipped past them. There was this one time that I was so obvious, it nearly wasn’t hinting, and it was an important topic, but he still wouldn’t understand. The situation was that I was the only one really in the relationship and that he never cared about me or listened to what I had to say. It was pretty toxic and bad for my mental health but I stayed with him for so long because I felt that is what I deserved. But what I tried to do is get him to ask me out on dates and text me first and stuff like that, basic relationship shit. Did he change? Nope. Well, he texted me once. It was the driest conversation I had ever had but at least he did the bare minimum. And no, he never messaged me again. Well until he broke up with me over text after 2 and a half years. So he either didn’t get the hint, or he got the hint and felt it was too much for him to be a basic, considerate human being. Damn that was kind of a rant, sorry about it. But it just annoys me that they can never read between the lines and empathize with us. Even if you aren’t sure, just ask them a few questions to figure it out. Say they hint that they are bored, ask them if they want to go somewhere. If they say yes, take them to their favourite place. Even a trip to Tescos is one of the best things to do.
And I will say it again, it is not all men, but the men I know have all been like this and I still have yet to meet a guy who understands a girl. Here is a tip for you people in a relationship, better safe than sorry. So basically, ask them more about what you think they want or just go for what they are talking about, instead of “playing it safe” and not doing anything at all. But I do empathize with the fact that it might be due to how you were raised to fit the standards of “a man” and I also want to say that being emotional or kind doesn’t make you any less of a man. In fact, it makes you more of one, OK? Anyways, I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.
I know that some people might get a bit… enraged by this but it is true. I just hate it when people tell me to just ‘be positive’. I mean they act as though I am just gonna stand up tall and be like ‘ya know what, you are so right’. Do you seriously think that it would be that simple. Let me just have a wee bit of a slump OK.
Of course there are some exceptions, like when someone is reading out your blood type… wow I really do hate myself for that. Now all of my followers are just gonna be middle aged dads. Well… OK let me just be serious now. The times you can say it are when a small event happens. Like you get one bad grade, or you only have one more coin left for the claw machine…
but that is just because they are literally the most meaningless things in life. I mean you don’t go up to someone who is like clinically depressed and be like ‘it’s OK, be positive’. It doesn’t work like that grandpa, life has changed since the bloody wheel was invented. It just annoys me that people blurt out the most ridiculous things like that, and the thing is, you know that a majority of the time they are actually trying to be nice, but I mean, just don’t say that.
To be honest, I am not 100% sure why this angers me like it does, but it just makes it sound as if you think that what they are going through is literally meaningless. I mean you wouldn’t go up to someone in the army who literally is in the middle of no-mans land and just be like ‘just relax’. Like what the hell do you think is going to happen when you say that? World piece will just suddenly be restored? No, you try to bloody help them. Although, in terms of mental health, the best thing to do is just be there for them and not try to fix everything.
Sometimes teachers say it as well. They will literally stand at the front of the class with a massive pile of homework and be like ‘I know I am only giving you one day to complete this all, but just be positive and you will get through it’. You know what Karen, you just changed the world. I mean I don’t think I can fear sadness ever again. As a matter of fact, let me just do everyone’s homework. Literally words can have no magical affect to make us all better. Even if you have good intentions by saying it, just still don’t do it.
There are some times in life where you can be having the worst day. One of those days where you just suddenly realise that this is how your life is gonna be forever. You look out the school bus window, at the exact same time everyday, at the exact same street where all the workers are walking home. You see that man you see every day, wearing the exact same clothing, walking around at the exact same time, exact same place, doing the exact same thing. And you see that in everyone. You can see they have all just, accepted it. And you really don’t want to become like that but everywhere you look there are lifeless people whose bodies run on a schedule, powered by the money they get to buy the bare necessities. That is what I was feeling one day when I got off the bus to walk home. Nothing had changed. I got their at the exact same time. There was the exact same person walking their dog, the sun was just setting, and this man was mowing his lawn. He looked up and spoke to me. He said ‘hey, these are the best years of your life so just be positive’. I looked back at him and I could tell he felt as though he had just made someones day. I don’t blame him or anything, I mean how could he read a teenagers mind. But I just smiled and walked on. The sadness that made me feel was so overwhelming that my heart was nearly on the floor. I just couldn’t bare that this life would only get worse. I mean it feels so impossible but I guess it’s true. I guess it is time that I just accept this life and work that office job where I work for someone else everyday. Not thinking for myself until I need to figure out what I should take out of my grocery list so that I can afford the shopping this month. My family is so great and we have been so lucky financially, but for me I just feel like I won’t get that. And it was the fact that he just said to ‘be positive’. It sounds so simple, like I should just pick myself up and enjoy every second. But how can I do that when I know it is all gonna be worthless and nothing is gonna come from it.
I suppose that is why I don’t like the phrase. I think it should be banned. Replaced with just your presence. Obviously not from a stranger, but someone you know and trust. They should just look at you with all the compassion they have because that communicates better than any word in the dictionary.
Sometimes downplaying someones emotions can be really damaging to them. Obviously, we know you don’t mean any harm, but when your head is filled with awful things, it morphs any good intentions into bad ones. I know from experience that it is like that for a lot of people. They don’t hate you for what they say, they just feel misunderstood or as though they are literally insane. You don’t need to use your words all the time. Sometimes just being there means the most.
Thank you so much for reading. I really hope this either opened your eyes on how to communicate with others, or reminded you that you aren’t crazy if your mind switches the good into bad. That isn’t your fault. Please like and follow if you enjoyed this and even leave a donation if you like. Anything is appreciated. Hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.
But I will share some tips of what I do to prolong my survival.
For me, I like to zone out whenever I am on a useless topic. And because I am zoned out for the majority of the day, I like to create a world in my head that is even slightly better than the one I am in now. For example, I go to the deepest darkest pits of hell, that’s my favourite one. Really takes your mind of how horrible your day is. Or you could imagine that you have gone into space and your helmet falls off, the good thing about that is that I am not stuck in my house and my continuous headache actually makes sense. So yeah, 10 out of 10 do recommend
Oh don’t get me wrong. I am not researching the work we are doing ahaha definitely not. Actually, I am researching ways to make money to get out of school. My teacher is literally talking about fibre and water right as I am typing this so… I am also trying affiliate marketing so hopefully blogging and marketing will get me THE HELL OUT OF HERE. Sorry for shouting. But yeah I just have the class as ‘background music’ while I look up actual useful stuff. Multi-tasking?
LOL I am not out here literally just juggling in class, well… not all the time anyways. I just have the juggling balls for some reason and just throw it at my wall and catch it or just throw it up and down. To be fair this one is a good one to do. Definitely does help to be honest. And then you could put juggling on your resume… if you want to be a clown. But anyways it is quite the fun one.
Clean My Room
If you have got to this point during class, that is when you know you have just given up completely. Me? Yeah I have got to that point in pretty much all my classes, so yeah. But somehow my room never actually gets any cleaner. Kind of just an organised mess but I mean what else am I supposed to do? Listen?
LOL I swear I don’t talk like that in real life, but like why is this kind of a bargain. Like I literally have you hooked. I got the promo codes for you. I mean I can’t just fuel your online shopping addiction with at least helping you a bit. I am currently wearing my desert sky boutique jumper and I mean comfort is one of the most important things for online school. So yeah, I won’t snitch on you. And besides, you are just supporting small businesses.
Talk To Yourself
Firstly, don’t judge. Second, I am not crazy. Lastly, It is quite fun. You don’t have to start a bloody conversation, just talk your thoughts aloud and make whatever weird noises or songs you want because I mean who is gonna hear you? Nobody you care about anyways so. Just a warning though, MAKE SURE YOUR MIC IS OFF. Please, spare the embarrassment. It can me fun to do this because you distract yourself, you don’t just hear nothing and you can say the weirdest things that you want to. You may also find that you are quite funny, ya never know.
Anyways, you will still get bored as FUCK in the end but this will slow down the process of literal diagnosed boredom. Hope you all enjoyed this and please like, follow and donate some money so that I never have to go to school EVER again. Thank you. Have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT
So I am gonna leave some links for the products which I love to use so you don’t have to keep looking them up yourselves because I mean why tell you about it if I can’t help you out at the same time.
You know what, I am going to guess you guys already have this in your room, but, if you don’t, click here and you can get one now. Anyways, you may be like ‘how the hell are lights gonna make you relax’ and I would be like ‘bro… shut up’. To be honest, I don’t know why. I mean it isn’t the light, it is the colour of the light helps me. I mean it is like school. The building doesn’t make me hate life, the actual school part does. You know what I mean? But yeah, I usually like to turn off my main light and switch on the orange-yellow light which makes my room feel really nice and cosy. For me also, it just calms me because it makes you feel safe and at home. Then there are other colours, of course, like blue which help me to calm down. Actually, I am pretty sure that blue is supposed to make you feel more relaxed. Hmm? Maybe I will have to make everything in my life blue and all will be sorted. Well, at least I can do that with my lights. And you don’t have to be a sad bum like me to have these lights. I mean it just transform your room to whatever vibe you want it in. It is also great for at night when you are so comfy and you can’t be arsed to move, because BOOM, remote control. Yeah, your welcome.
These are an investment and a half. So I got one of these for Christmas and I was a bit skeptical. I was like, is this just a placebo affect or what? And for me I move a lot in my sleep so I was like is this gonna work for me. Let me tell you right now, I slept so well. And then I was talking to someone about it and they were like, therapists literally use these because they help to release certain chemicals or something like that and I was like damn. Truly is a life saver. Also, for a quick wee tip, you should buy a weight which is 1/10th of your body weight or something like that. It was weird though because I knew it was gonna be heavy obviously but like it blows your mind because you are looking at a comfy blanket, yet, it could take your head off it someone threw it at you. But yeah, click here anyways if you wanna get one and I definitely do recommend them for someone who gets really anxious, or if you just don’t sleep well, or if you just want one. I mean you do you.
I don’t want nobody on here to be embarrassed about doing this step. If you grew up being told that you should toughen up, I am sorry, but please try to realise that your feelings are valid and that writing them down is such a great way to lay them all out. You can do this in so many ways as well. I mean you can just have your basic, lined diary, which you can get by clicking here. What is also a great idea that is becoming more popular are bullet journals. I only started this at the beginning of the year and I didn’t really understand how it could help. But what I realised is that it help to have all of your negative thoughts out at the end of the day. You can link up some emotions with sleep or exercise patterns and you can just track or write whatever you want that will make your life easier. It do be fun to look through Pinterest at all the artsy work people do, try to recreate it, and fail horribly. But click here so you can get a bullet journal too. I also posted about how to write your bullet journal so go check that out too if you are stuck because it can be confusing.
I do have to admit, I only do this in desperate situations because I can get bored easily but when I do it really helps because it helps you to escape if you know what I mean. Especially during lock down, it transports you away from the walls you stay in everyday and takes you to wherever you want. It is truly special. I will link some of my favourite books but also a link to a kindle because I have found that they are better for me. You don’t have a clunky book in your hand, it is light, doesn’t take up a lot of room, and you can buy other books on it as well. The first book I recommend is Noughts and Crosses, this is actually a series of books but I will just link the first one for you so you can find out if you like it. I won’t spoil anything, and you can read about it on the description in the link, but it has everything you could want in a book. This one is actually a book that I couldn’t put down, and that is saying something. Another book I recommend is Opposite of Always. Now this one is a feel good book. I mean the plot is really sad but what I mean is that it shows true love. It shows what you want others to do for you. It shows so much emotion and I could read it over and over again. I 10 out of 10 do recommend. The last book I am gonna mention is The Freedom Writers. OK I am not gonna lie to you, I have not read the actual book yet BUT I have watched the movie (which I also highly recommend) which is about the story behind this book and I can’t wait for my mum to finish it so I can read it. This book contains real life stories of a classroom of kids who live really different and difficult lives. They each have an entry about their story and from the movie, I know that their stories will really open your eyes to the world of others which I think we all need so that we can be more knowledgeable about others lives and not just our own. Maybe you might even find someones story you relate to, but either way you are going to gain something from that book. Knowledge or reassurance that you aren’t alone. Right, and last but not least, here is the link for a kindle. I am not gonna lie to you guys. This is expensive, well depends on who you are obviously, but the good thing is that you can get books for cheaper on this instantly because you don’t need more paper, you don’t need it shipped. stuff like that that bring the cost down. You could also say it is better for the environment, but either way, kindle or not, you should try to read more. Escape more.
You may be thinking, ‘how the hell do earphones make you relaxed, this is ridiculous’, and to that I say, ‘sorry I can’t hear you, I have my earphones in’. The great thing about earphones is that they help to immerse you in the song or the show or whatever by blocking out more sounds from the real world. Sometimes if others are really loud or you just can’t take anymore of the world, putting in earphones can help to block that out more. I am not saying it is the cure but for me it helps me to focus on the words in the song or the different sounds in a show. It helps me to concentrate and focus on that moment. I will leave a link for wireless earphones and also non-wireless earphones just in case you prefer one to the other or have different price ranges. I mean this may not work for everyone but it sure is worth a try.
Thank you so much for reading this and I hope this helps you to relax a bit more. I do have other methods too but I will mention them at a later date. But for now, lay back, relax and try to transport yourself into a new world. Please like and follow if you want more content like this. I also have a few codes for money off on different brands of clothes which you should check out. Other than that, I hope you stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.
I have a story and it ain’t a good one.
So it started a long time ago, at 12pm yesterday, I was just face timing my friends at lunch and talking about how we were given a ‘screen free’ day off on Monday, and of course we are all excited for this even though there was fuck all to do. But then BOMB I got an email from my teacher reminding us ‘so even though it is a day off on Monday, the people in my history class still need to do there exam. Thank you’. Literally all it sounded like to me was ‘hey you unimportant piles of shit, you know that mental health day on Monday? Yeah, well you don’t matter that much to us anyways so just still do the test. I hate you all and I hope you have the worst weekend.’ Like I really did not appreciate that. The literal proof that I NEED a mental health day is that I am literally going to see my counselor on that day. I mean hello? Do you need me to spell it out for you. It is last period as well so it isn’t like I can get it done and over with.
So of course I told the mum and was like ‘guess what bitch’ and she was like ‘what’ and I was like ‘you ain’t gonna believe it’ and she was like ‘just fucking tell me already’ and I was like ‘I have work to do on the day we have off’. And then she said ‘I’m gonna call the school and complain’ and then I was like ‘don’t do it girl’ because the teacher hates me enough already and my mum was like ‘I’m not gonna do it girl, I was only thinkin’ about it’. But then I see her calling the school and she was like ‘I did it’. Or at least it was along those lines. To say I was scundered would be an understatement. I was digging my grave already. But yeah that happened.
Then later on they sent out an email to all the parents confirming that ‘this is a day off school because we all need a mental health break during these troubling times. We want to make sure everyone is OK and keeping well, APART FROM a select group of people who are doing a test that day even though they could be easily moved to another but we just don’t care about them enough to give a shit. Goodnight lol :)’ My mum was not having it and neither was I to be honest, like they can’t abuse the power or google classroom and make me work on a day off. If you have seen my last post, this is one of the techniques and is it working? Um yes.
But what this has to do with the title is that society gives out so many mixed signals like ‘follow this trend’ but ‘be yourself’. ‘Try this new diet’ but ‘you are perfect and you shouldn’t change’. Like it is so dumb and I can’t keep up. And know this situation is happening where they are like ‘you are loved and we care about you’ but ‘only some of you. The others can go fuck themselves, here is a test that will go towards your GCSE’. Like did I miss the memo where it said ‘nobody cares about you’ because I would of at least wanted to know. I think the world needs to make up their mind because I know my brain is gonna go for the wrong one. It already has and I don’t want that to happen to anyone else.
But I guess that can work in our favor some times because we can see that no matter what we do someone is gonna have something to say, and no matter what you do someone is gonna support you. And it is when you do what you want that you find the people you shouldn’t be with and the people who you should. So I mean I guess that is a good thing because it is always easier said than done. There are gonna be people who want you to fail but they are just angry because you are being who you want to be and they just don’t have the strength to be themselves as well. I mean if everyone is who they are supposed to be then why would anyone give people shit for who they are because we all have the chance to be happy and unique.
What I recommend and will try to start doing myself is to create a third path, not just ‘do this’ or ‘do that’ but add in an ‘me’ option. I can see they are there and I can still choose those paths but I know that they aren’t me and they are the wrong decision. It is gonna be a damn scary path but the thing is, other people are gonna be at the end and I am gonna get on so well with them. I can be myself, make great friends, understand each other. It will be great and I hope you enjoy it too.
Thank you so much for reading this and I hoped this helped you to know that other people are just as confused as you are right now. There are so many new things that we think we need to have or do and it is so hard to keep track but I’ll make it all understandable. You aren’t gonna like it but… do what makes you happy.
Hopefully most people understand this but if you don’t, I am referring to, and may they rest in piece, vine. But that is completely off topic. However, I am referring to this queen as it is completely correct. As a teen girl who never gets listened to, anger can rise very quickly, but, as she says, sometimes all you gotta do is walk away. Wow, how impactful. Anyways, back on track. People can get on your nerves and to be polite you can’t do nothin’ about it. So I got a few tips and hopefully this will help others who feel unheard or who have a lot to say.
Diary Of A Wimpy Kid
Yup, a diary. Or if you want to seem like a macho man, a journal. I don’t see why it can’t just be called a diary but I mean you do you boo. So yeah you could set it out all properly and at the end of each day just turn all your thoughts and emotions into words, or you could bring a small notebook around with you and just write down whatever you need to at any point of the day. This could help you to organize your thoughts or just to let out the anger.
Control, Alt, Delete
I have gotta give a quick shout out to the mum who told me this idea and bitch I could make a trilogy out of the things I delete. So what you do is, if it is an email or online thing you are responding to, type out the thing you actually want to say to them. Go all out, all the words, and the shit you need said. Read it as many times as you need, scream it out. Then delete it. And I know that it sounds quite childish when I say this but then you kind of feel smug and you are like, you don’t even know a thing bitch. And then write a professional, kind response which will sound nice to them but you know that it is sarcastic as fuck
Save It For Later
So this is simple. Just let the person say what they need and you just stay respectful but when you go home or see someone next just have a full on slabber about what happened. Say this on snap chat, face time, say it to your dog, your cat, your teddy bear. Anyone or anything just say ‘I am going to talk for five minutes and I need you to be quiet and listen while I say this’. And just get it all off your chest. You will feel so much better and you can just say what you want and that person will never know.
So this one is an OG but I thought I would add it in for anyone who is unfamiliar. All you gotta do is get a pillow and scream into it. Of course let yourself breathe every so often. It is so good because you can let it all out and the pillow muffles the noise so your family or neighbors wont think you have just been murdered
Ha OK so you may be able to understand some of my posts now. Not all of them are for this reason as most are just to help people feel included in life. But trust me it helps. It’s also good because then you will find other people who will hype you up and agree with you. You can get a whole platform with your thoughts and use them for something useful and not for ignorant people who don’t want to know what anyone else thinks.
Cha Cha Real Smooth
This one is mandatory and will save you in the long run. It is going to be hard to do but it is essential. To be honest if it gets to the point where the person is being disrespectful or you can say your point calmly then by all means say what you need. But if you aren’t given that option or you need to be formal, just leave. Walk away from the situation because if you need help from them someday then they will help you unlike if you were to shout at them because they are annoying. But you need to wait it out and do some of the other tips so that your future isn’t affected because you never know when you may need that persons help with anything. Don’t let them get to you, it isn’t worth it. They don’t deserve to know what you think and you can use your beliefs for something great.
Thank you so much for reading this and I hope this helps you in the future. Sometimes when you hold things in it makes everything so much worse so please do give this a try. I hope you follow to read more helpful and relatable posts but in the mean time please enjoy my other posts.
Sometimes we need a break. From friends. From our phone. From our lives. For anything. And that is ok. So never feel guilty about cancelling a day out or not being present in the situation. It is like any battery. If you use it all the time it will eventually need to be recharged. People recharge in different ways so take the time you need to gather yourself and then do what you need to do.
Right so that title literally gave me a headache to make; mental note, there are no synonyms for break that start with T. Anyways, I thought I would write this post because so much crap happens everyday and we all need a break. But what should you do? Look no further bitches cause I got the answer right here.
- Face Mask, But Make It Relaxing
The fact we all think of medical face masks when we see that word instead of the skin care ones. Also, if you are a man and think this is going to affect your masculinity, wise up and put on the god damn mask. Who the hell said men can’t look after themselves. Put the face mask on and be confident. Anyways, that was intense but yeah literally get a face mask if you have one or look up how to make one. I will leave a few links to good ones that don’t require a literal lab to make
Right, that link has multiple different masks you can make. Some with a few weird ingredients but I mean you can make whatever you like. So once you have a mask on, put on you favorite show, or light some candles and put on some relaxing music. Just do what makes you happy and then in 20 to 30 minutes wash your face and just relax for a wee bit more until you are ready to start whatever you need to do. Extra bonus for maximum relaxation – put on your PAJAMAS. You may be in them already and to that I say, as you should, but if you don’t, get them on right now. Enjoy yourself
2. A guided meditation to look boojy as hell
Look, who needs to pay £100 just for some to whisper ‘shravnaga’ in your ear. I mean yoga classes can be creepy. Instead just search up on google some meditations. The good thing is that you can how long you want it to be. And just if you wanted to know, my therapist recommended it so, your welcome, you just therapy for free. Although I live in the UK do I already got that. Cha anyways… but yeah this would be a great way to distract yourself for a while and relax. Escape from the burning hell, which is the earth, and create a magical land in your mind. Fall asleep if you want, I don’t care.
3. Read A Book
Right so don’t skip this one because you are too ‘cool’ to read. I mean of course of you can’t read very well then you don’t need to. You could watch your favorite show instead. But if you can read, give it a try. Especially during times like these it is so nice to escape from it almost. You can read a book and go to a completely other world. So give it a try. Read a book you have never read, or one that you love, get a cuppa tea or coffee and snuggle up in your bed. Just relax and enjoy the escape from reality.
4. Sloooooooooow waaaaaaaalk
This may be quite frustrating for some at the beginning because you normally walk fast but try it. Go for a slow 15 or 30 minute walk. Life is moving so quickly and the moment. Every second something new comes up. So go for a slow walk to give yourself time to come back to the moment. Listen to music or listen to the things around you. Look around and appreciate all that you see. It is good to get out of your house, if you don’t have ‘rona of course, and escape from the four walls you see everyday. Walking slowly is actually quite relaxing as well, so I mean try it out even for just 10 minutes and then see what happens next. Take it one minute at a time.
5. Bored game … I mean board game
Right so I know board games aren’t really for everyone. My twin in literally obsessed and I couldn’t give a shit. I hate monopoly with a passion, but that’s besides the point. If you could find someone to play with, maybe your family or a friend, or you dog I guess but it may take I while, just dig deep into a closet and try to find a game or a puzzle that you could do. Just a wee bit fun and you can take your mind off the pile of work you have 🙂
6. Bake Bitch
Right OK look, I am talking about MAKING stuff like cupcakes. Not doing your makeup or drugs. Don’t get baked, bake something else. OK. Good. Now we have that all cleared up, you could make some cookies or cupcakes or you could go all out and make a cake and then try to decorate it like really fancy or cool looking I suppose. But my recommendation is to make cookies, cause they don’t take too long, then get all cozy in a blanket, maybe get the fire on, a cuppa tea or milk, and watch a movie with the lights dimmed a wee bit. Wow that sounds so beautiful I could cry :,)
OK, shut up. I know this is basically like the other one but hear me out, This would be so much fun. You could drive to the store get the ingredients you need, go all out or try to make something… unique with some of the cheaper items or stuff you already have at home. Let your culinary skills shine guys. Go off a complicated recipe or make your own. It may turn out horrible but hey, there is a McDonald down the road anyways. You could make a really fancy dinner for yourself. Get all dressed up or stay in your pj’s, whatever you want, but just have a really special meal for yourself because you matter most and you need to learn to love yourself. I mean you never know, cooking could be your new passion and boom, your welcome, you are famous.
8. I do my little dancy dance
You already know where I am going with this one. Learn a tiktok dance. I mean hey, obviously if you have got this fair you ain’t got much to lose. Give it a try, I mean you don’t have to post it anywhere. You could make your own if you like and then become TIKTOK FAMOUS :0 lets make a deal though. If you become tiktok famous and start a trend you have to at least give me a shout out. That sounds fair enough right. Some of the dances are pretty cool though and that could be your next party trick. Well, for when we are allowed one again
You just gotta tap into your primary school self ya know. Just become a little childish. I am not talking about going outside the lines or colouring a giraffe purple but just do some colouring. You can print some out from google, get a colouring book at the shops or draw something yourself and colour that in. It is supposed to be really relaxing actually so might as well give it a try. The good thing is you could watch something in the background or listen to music.
10. Read more of my blogs
Oooooooooh, sorry for the cheeky wee plug but I mean I just had to. Look, in my blog I usually post relatable things about being a teen just to show that you aren’t alone and that nobody really has a clue of what to do. I have a few wee random, fun posts like good Netflix shows but others are stories about what I have gone through and just other stuff other people wouldn’t understand, especially during a time like this. So please do look at my other posts and I’ll see you there. Jeez, that sounded way creepy than I intended.
Anyways, thank you so much for reading my blog and I hope this has helped to cure your boredom and rest your mind for a bit. Just remember that you gotta put yourself before anyone else because they don’t deserve you PERIODT.
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