Here is the thing with people. Most of them can’t take a fucking hint. Say I wanted to even just go to a park, I could say ‘going to the park now would be fun’ and they would be as clueless as I am during an English test. And now I know that you are going to say that “girls are so confusing, when they say one thing, they mean the other” and you know, maybe at some times, but sometimes it is so fucking clear that a bird would fly into it. That was a pretty bad metaphor, but you get the idea.
This has happened for every single man I have talked to, although to be fair that isn’t that many lol. But the thing is that they never get what I mean. Now I don’t know why this is. Maybe it is because men are used to people just being straight up, or they literally don’t get it, but it is so aggravating. You guys out there will be telling us to just say what we mean, but that isn’t always easy. We try to not be so direct because, maybe, we want someone to do something for us because they understand us and what we want. Or maybe it is a difficult topic to talk about. I know that sometimes, for me, I am not straight up because I want to trick myself into thinking that they came up with the idea themselves and they actually care about me. I guess that kind of sums up my old relationship, but it is true. I mean, you guys should relate to this, right? You have been taught to hide your emotions and “be a man” and, although I am not comparing your problems to ours, we still feel anxious to open up fully. I think it is kind of common for everyone.
The thing that aggravates me though is that it never processes in their brain. You can see in their eyes that what your just said has slipped past them. There was this one time that I was so obvious, it nearly wasn’t hinting, and it was an important topic, but he still wouldn’t understand. The situation was that I was the only one really in the relationship and that he never cared about me or listened to what I had to say. It was pretty toxic and bad for my mental health but I stayed with him for so long because I felt that is what I deserved. But what I tried to do is get him to ask me out on dates and text me first and stuff like that, basic relationship shit. Did he change? Nope. Well, he texted me once. It was the driest conversation I had ever had but at least he did the bare minimum. And no, he never messaged me again. Well until he broke up with me over text after 2 and a half years. So he either didn’t get the hint, or he got the hint and felt it was too much for him to be a basic, considerate human being. Damn that was kind of a rant, sorry about it. But it just annoys me that they can never read between the lines and empathize with us. Even if you aren’t sure, just ask them a few questions to figure it out. Say they hint that they are bored, ask them if they want to go somewhere. If they say yes, take them to their favourite place. Even a trip to Tescos is one of the best things to do.
And I will say it again, it is not all men, but the men I know have all been like this and I still have yet to meet a guy who understands a girl. Here is a tip for you people in a relationship, better safe than sorry. So basically, ask them more about what you think they want or just go for what they are talking about, instead of “playing it safe” and not doing anything at all. But I do empathize with the fact that it might be due to how you were raised to fit the standards of “a man” and I also want to say that being emotional or kind doesn’t make you any less of a man. In fact, it makes you more of one, OK? Anyways, I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.
Damn, my English teacher would be proud of me for that title. That is definitely the biggest word I know. Anyways, as a teen, I always here my parents talking about stuff and I am like ‘is that a lot or is that small’ and I just have to go off the tone of their voice. I don’t know if others feel this way as well or if I’m just dumb. Lets find out.
When I was in primary school, one of the tasks we always did was to plan a holiday with a given amount of money to spend. Obviously fake money, I mean I didn’t go to private school. But one time I was like ‘mum I booked a plane ticket and it was only £99’ and I thought that was great but then my mum was like ‘that is awful, I would never pay that much’. Let me just say I was crushed. I thought I got a proper bargain. And when my mum comes home from Tescos or something, she could say something like ‘the bananas cost £1 all together today’ and to me £1 sounds so cheap but my mum would be raging and then my parents would go into a talk about the economy or something while I am here buzzing because I could buy 6 bananas for only £1. I mean I know a bargain when I see one but then again that is when I see the difference between poundland or home bargains. You gotta love a bargain but like I couldn’t really say what is a good price for food. And then with people’s salary. I mean when I am looking up jobs they always come up with the salary, obviously, and to me any money is a lot but I don’t know. And this is gonna make me sound posh, which I am not, but I thought that £1000 wasn’t that much for adults but then on game shows they are like ‘well done you got a grand’ and they think they’re the bees knees. Don’t get me wrong I’d be happy to win the money but like I don’t know, I just get mixed up. The worst thing is when people are like ‘guess how much this was’ and I have no bloody clue, I’m just like ‘I am gonna guess somewhere between £1 and £300’. I have to say I am always right.
Why is it that when someone asks my mum or dad ‘How far away is this?’, they just be like ‘to 2 or 3 decimal places?’ and I’m like, I barely know where that is. But seriously I just can’t comprehend because one metre is 100 centimetres, right? And that seems like a lot but then a metre doesn’t actually look that big when you see it. And a centimetre is actually really small. Then when people say what height they are I just get messed up because I always thought that 6 feet was a normal height for people because my dad is like 6.2 feet or something. But then later on in life when people were like oh my he is 6 foot, I would be like ‘OOOooKKKkkkk?’ What about it? I also don’t understand when someone is small. Obviously when I see them I can tell but like I either dramatize their smallness, making them too tall, or just not know at all. I don’t understand how people can just understand lengths and distances.
Look, I can read the time, I can read a clock, I know that an hour long drive is long. But what I mean is, well, I’ll just give you an example. Yesterday my mum was like ‘so I heard that *person’s name* works 30 hours now’ and I just looked at her blankly like ;1 what do you expect me to do with that. I didn’t know if that was long or short. And also when people are like, he ran a half-marathon in 4 hours and I would be like, I know a professional has run it in 2 hours, but like, is that good for someone else. Like I don’t really understand. And sometimes when I am watching something or doing something else, even when it isn’t boring, I feel like 15 minutes has gone by but then only 5 mins have gone buy and I’m like, excuse me? Time isn’t the worst thing for me I suppose although it is just confusing and I feel like I am always wrong at guessing an estimate of time. I guess it probably just has to do with boredom. I feel as though adults have a built in clock as well because if I was to ask how long it would take to get somewhere they would be like ‘well, approximately 2 hours 37 minutes and 24 seconds, depending on traffic’ and I am here like, do you just learn this from experience or is this some sort of rain man crap?
This one is kind of different to the others but like this is just something I can’t get into my head. As someone who can’t drive yet, I could only tell you what street I live on which, for the purpose of my safety, I will not tell you. But I know it, I swear. I always hear my sister and my mum talking about what route they take as if they are a bloody atlas. One time this woman was like ‘does this lane take you down to *blahbalh* road?’. I looked behind me and was like ‘where the fuck is *blahblah* road?’, turned back around and was like ‘I don’t know’. She looked at me as though I was dumb, well, I don’t blame her. In my defense though, we called the road she was talking about something is, we called it *hhkjki* road, you know. I swear that when I learn how to drive, I will be relying on google maps, I mean if I were to ever ask directs, for one, I wouldn’t know what the hell they are talking about, and two, I would forget every word they just said. The thing is though, when people go the wrong way or the road is blocked, they always happen to know which way to go. Like it is crazy. It could be somewhere I have never been before yet my dad would find a way. And it is always the weirdest way too. At one point I swear I saw my will to live, but I never saw it again.
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