Here is the thing with people. Most of them can’t take a fucking hint. Say I wanted to even just go to a park, I could say ‘going to the park now would be fun’ and they would be as clueless as I am during an English test. And now I know that you are going to say that “girls are so confusing, when they say one thing, they mean the other” and you know, maybe at some times, but sometimes it is so fucking clear that a bird would fly into it. That was a pretty bad metaphor, but you get the idea.
This has happened for every single man I have talked to, although to be fair that isn’t that many lol. But the thing is that they never get what I mean. Now I don’t know why this is. Maybe it is because men are used to people just being straight up, or they literally don’t get it, but it is so aggravating. You guys out there will be telling us to just say what we mean, but that isn’t always easy. We try to not be so direct because, maybe, we want someone to do something for us because they understand us and what we want. Or maybe it is a difficult topic to talk about. I know that sometimes, for me, I am not straight up because I want to trick myself into thinking that they came up with the idea themselves and they actually care about me. I guess that kind of sums up my old relationship, but it is true. I mean, you guys should relate to this, right? You have been taught to hide your emotions and “be a man” and, although I am not comparing your problems to ours, we still feel anxious to open up fully. I think it is kind of common for everyone.
The thing that aggravates me though is that it never processes in their brain. You can see in their eyes that what your just said has slipped past them. There was this one time that I was so obvious, it nearly wasn’t hinting, and it was an important topic, but he still wouldn’t understand. The situation was that I was the only one really in the relationship and that he never cared about me or listened to what I had to say. It was pretty toxic and bad for my mental health but I stayed with him for so long because I felt that is what I deserved. But what I tried to do is get him to ask me out on dates and text me first and stuff like that, basic relationship shit. Did he change? Nope. Well, he texted me once. It was the driest conversation I had ever had but at least he did the bare minimum. And no, he never messaged me again. Well until he broke up with me over text after 2 and a half years. So he either didn’t get the hint, or he got the hint and felt it was too much for him to be a basic, considerate human being. Damn that was kind of a rant, sorry about it. But it just annoys me that they can never read between the lines and empathize with us. Even if you aren’t sure, just ask them a few questions to figure it out. Say they hint that they are bored, ask them if they want to go somewhere. If they say yes, take them to their favourite place. Even a trip to Tescos is one of the best things to do.
And I will say it again, it is not all men, but the men I know have all been like this and I still have yet to meet a guy who understands a girl. Here is a tip for you people in a relationship, better safe than sorry. So basically, ask them more about what you think they want or just go for what they are talking about, instead of “playing it safe” and not doing anything at all. But I do empathize with the fact that it might be due to how you were raised to fit the standards of “a man” and I also want to say that being emotional or kind doesn’t make you any less of a man. In fact, it makes you more of one, OK? Anyways, I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.