It’s All About Perspective

Ok guys, we aren’t about to get into some existential shit today because I don’t think I can take that at the moment, but I guess it kinda will be but like to a certain extent, so kinda just be warned about that but lets get started into it. This is another weekly reminder post but I am going to make it around the same vibe as my other posts because I find it hard to… write like I care. That sounds really mean but what I mean by that is that I struggle to not cringe when I try to write a post in an empathetic tone. I know I am disappointing my English teacher at the moment but like I don’t give a shit anyways. So sorry if you prefer reading things that are kinda sad, but I use humor to cope despite the fact my humor is crap so that isn’t the best but like we move. I also don’t know why I am typing all of this because I can guarantee that you don’t give a fuck. But yeah, I feel that when I try to write a post with an empathetic tone, I sound so fake, kinda like all the people in my school. Lets get into it anyways

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I saw this TikTok video yesterday and it was this girl that was replying to a comment that said “how are you so confident” and if I knew who that girl was I would shout her out but I don’t so like deal with it, but anyways, she was so… como se dice… perfect. Like she was a nice confident where she is outgoing but wouldn’t be like “fuck you” to every person who breathes near her. Anyways, that is besides the point, but she literally just said “because nobody fucking cares! In a couple of hundred years everyone on this earth will literally be dead and nobody will remember that thing you said or the clothes you wore or anything because it won’t carry on once we all die”. I mean unless you do something so awful like a proper historical downfall, you shouldn’t change for anyone. Like that person you are changing yourself for is gonna die and so are you so why are you trying to do something for them when eventually it won’t matter at all and you should live the life that you want when you have it.

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I always get a wee bit scared when I talk about doing whatever you want because it won’t mean shit in the future because I always feel people are going to use that as a reason for like killing someone or just doing something awful because “it won’t matter” but like don’t think I am saying that. I don’t want to be responsible for murder, but like you know what I mean. It is the things like caring what other people think about you and stuff like that. Trying to make others happy before yourself and that shit. We are all guilty of doing this and that’s fine because that is what we have learned and it isn’t our fault, but it is also ok because we can fix it, as long as it is for yourself. That is kinda why I like being single at this stage. I mean having someone that actually likes you must be nice, but I like the fact that I am free to fully figure myself out and think about myself as an individual and if a relationship comes from that then it is perfect. But from past experiences I know that having a partner can be kinda restrictive and, at least in my position, I always changed myself to be perfect for him and to not be myself. Maybe if you have a healthy relationship then that is different, but you need to think carefully about who you are with.

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And also, literally if that person remembers it for the rest of their life, maybe they laugh about how you panicked in a school play until the day they die, then that is only one life and you should move on with it because they will die one day and that is it. It won’t become a family tradition to carry on this story. And the embarrassing thing you did, you aren’t the first person to do that. I mean the earth is millions of years old and even in just the past 100 years, there have probably been millions of people that have done the same as you. What you also need to remind yourself is that if someone actually does hang onto that one thing you did ages ago and makes fun of it, they have no fucking life. I mean would a person who actually mattered focus on that thing everyday or would they move on with life and all the opportunities they will come to have. And the people who remember it and therefore have no life, shouldn’t worry you because it doesn’t make you less than them and you know the only reason they remember that is because they have made it their whole personality trait and that is the only bit of information they can actually keep in their pea sized brain.

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So yeah, I hope this boosted your confidence in some way and that you can come to terms with the reality of life and how eventually, just like humans, rumors will die. Stories die and you aren’t weird or dumb for what you did. But yeah, just don’t give a shit and you will be good I guess. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT

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Going Back To “Normal”

Hey guys, so I haven’t really posted on here in a wee bit but like life happens so deal with it. Anyways, I guess I just wanted to just talk about how today I am kind of transitioning back into a normal, pre-covid, life. And what is it that I am doing you might ask? Well, I am going to be going back to Ju-Jitsu for the first time in forever which is kind of fun but at this point I don’t even know if I am interested in going and that could be because it has been a while or it could also be my mental state lol. A large portion of it is also not being able to body slam people and knock the shit out of them. You don’t really do that in Ju-Jitsu anyways, but like I did karate before and there were fights that you could do and it was actually quite fun. I think the only reason I stopped that was because it was becoming very serious for me and they wanted to put me in world championships and that shit but I am quite a home-bird and also that was around the time I started first year and my mental health was… declining. So yeah, in another world you could have been watching me knock the shit out of someone on the Olympics, but that would be women’s sports so I guess it isn’t that big. LOL THAT WAS A JOKE I SWEAR. I AM A WOMAN AND JUST MAKING FUN OF THE FACT MEN THINK WOMEN’S SPORTS IS BORING.

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But yeah, I think I tried 4 different martial arts classes in my lifetime. I also swear that when I first asked my parent’s if I could start karate I thought I was making up a word but I must have heard it from someone subconsciously and I was so freaked out when they said “sure”. I’m not sure if that was a mistake or not but I did ballet before and that was not my cuppa tea lets just say. I have a really embarrassing story from ballet but I don’t think I will ever tell you what it is. So I don’t know why I just told you that if I am not even going to tell the story lol but yeah it was embarrassing. Do you know what is funny though, and my English teacher would literally eat this up, is that I started my ‘martial arts journey’ in the leisure center and the 4th that I am in now is at the same leisure center! Cyclical structure?! I hate how I thought of that. LETS ANALYZE IT! no. I never have to do that again and I am thankful for that everyday.

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You probably aren’t wondering, but I am going to tell you, why I left each of the classes. They are pretty good stories actually so lets get started

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  1. The first place I went to was at the leisure center and it was for karate. My friend at the time went their too and I was like wow this is so fun. Except for when the grading part came (if you don’t know, this is how you go up the belts). The man that was their was so fucking creepy and there were so many people I didn’t know and the building that it was in was so sketchy and like had the worst vibes. I think a lot of my anxieties formed there. So that was one reason, and literally gave me PTSD to think about, but the other reason was because it was a small class and literally took fucking ages to move up just one belt. I think that for moving up each belt you had to do 2 gradings and then when you got to the higher belts you had to do 4 to get to the next belt. I know the black belt takes a while but like the fucking rest of them!? There was no need. So I left
  2. The second place I went to was probably one of my favorites because the people their were nice, I moved up pretty quickly because, ya know, I was a pro and all that. I stayed there a while and only left because high school really messed me up. I remember one time I literally cried when I was doing one of my gradings because I was so stressed out about everything. It was in a nice hall this time but like was still far from home and different to usual and really just set a bad vibe for the rest of the day. I liked this one a lot because they were obviously serious about it and actually did fighting and shit. There were competitions I went to and did well at and I nearly got to my brown belt I think, but I still remember the last day I went there and I was literally holding back tears and then when I got back to the car my mum was like “what’s wrong” and you know that hits different when you have been holding back tears the whole time, so then I quit. Little did I know that was only the fucking start lmao. High school was not good for me, let me tell you that. But I actually enjoyed it and fully miss it.
  3. The third place was BY FAR the worst of them all. I remember going to it and it was a fucking joke. I should have known from their logo and their fucking clown gees. It was new and my mum was like you need to go because you are good at martial arts and I was like fine and I actually hated it with a passion. They made it seem like they were so cool but they pretty much made up their own fucking martial art. These people spent 30 minutes of the 45 minutes doing warm ups and then the last 15 minutes I was having to work my way through literal fetuses doing random ass moves. They had a fucking grey belt! I might as well leave it there. They fully made up a belt and thought they were doing something. Like bitch just stop. And they would have all these literal weapons that looked like they were from an unrealistic ninja movie. I stayed there way too long and it was honestly embarrassing. People literally send their kids there and think they are gonna become a pro fighter but no, they are just gonna become a joke. So I left that place
  4. The forth place. The place I am at now. The place that I like despite a few different complications. The people there, to start, are mainly nice, but there are a select few who I… dislike strongly and would happily knock out. I am on my purple belt actually so have been there a while. The people are nice and, unlike the third place, they are official and not a joke. I am starting back today and the only reason I am not looking forward to it is that you aren’t even allowed to throw people so there quite literally will be nothing to do, but it’s fine. There are other reasons too but I think I have insulted my peers enough today.
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Anyways, that is all I can be bothered to talk about today. Lets hope it all goes well and I can control my emotions well enough. I am also not very fit after all that time off so literally watch me get the reddest face ever lmao. Are you guys starting anything normal at the moment or are a lot of your hobbies still closed? Leave your answer in the comment section below, I would love to hear what you are doing. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT

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Weekly Reminder – You Are a Bad Bitch

The past couple of weeks my weekly reminders have been more low-key but this week I want to liven it up a bit you know. Like I want to remind you guys how absolutely awesome you are and how you should not give a fuck what other people think because you are the shit. So welcome to my TED talk bitches, let’s get it started.

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How many times this past week did you give a fuck? It’s ok if it’s a lot. Mine is quite a lot. Now, my task for you this week is to lower this right down. Let’s get it down to a half of the fucks you gave. So if you cared about what other’s thought of you etc. around 20 times, lets lower this to 10 times. It may seem like a stretch, but catch yourself when you start to care about what other’s are thinking because that wastes so much of your time and they don’t deserve that. I am not gonna say that life is short because it really fucking isn’t but despite that, you ain’t got any time to give away so stop wasting time on the people who don’t matter. And it is natural for people to make question what they wear or get a bit anxious, but just look at yourself in the mirror and talk to your reflection as though you are hyping up your best friend who is feeling the way you do. Tell your reflection that it is the most beautiful thing in the world and that nobody deserves you. Tell it that it shouldn’t give a fuck about what other’s think because they are the most important thing in the world and everyone else is just jealous. It may feel a bit awkward at first and I know that it will but that is how you should be talking to yourself anyways. You shouldn’t be your own worst enemy.

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I can tell that whoever is reading this right now is an absolute beast because, well, you are on the best blog in the world, but also because you are still here. Like how fucking badass is that. You are walking away from a fucking bomb that was 2020 and you may still be in the fire but you are still going. Pandemic? Got nothing on you. School? You can get through it. Life? That shit sucks but I’m getting there. I don’t think that you fully appreciate how awesome you are because I know that others or yourself may downplay what you go through, but by just thinking about this past year, I already know that you are literally elite. You are gonna be the cool grandparent or older person that gives all the best advice, is absolutely hilarious, has awesome stories about living in a pandemic (despite the fact we might oversell it to sound more dramatic), you are gonna change the world just by existing and some day you will walk down the street and know that, although others may not see it yet, you are a freaking star.

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I am not sure if any of you guys have heard this quote before by Mother Teresa. It is pretty good and I think about it every so often because it is so simple yet means so much. She says

"We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop ...
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Isn’t that quite good. Like it just shows that no matter how small you think your impact on the earth is, it is still significant. If you weren’t here there would be that much less than if you were. It all adds up and although you may not see it, every thing matters and if we lost you, we would be a you short. We would be missing a you and that will affect things. You are a part of a big thing and your presence is appreciated. I guess you could also link it to the butterfly effect where, if small thing happens like a butterfly flapping it’s wings, it leads to something bigger, like a hurricane. It may seem a bit weird, but it is true. If we missed a you then throughout the years life would be so different especially in the lives of the ones you love. Because you are here the world is so much different and I want you to know that you do have a meaning, you are so important, you do make an impact and your life does matter.

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Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise because you are a blessing and you need to keep shinning because one day you will finally realise your strength and the world won’t seem so tough anymore. When you realise your worth, you won’t take any shit and you can live life they you want and make the decisions that make you the happiest I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.

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Cancel Culture – Let’s Address This Bitch

If anybody doesn’t know what cancel culture is, let me explain it to you. Technically, it is just this thing were people ‘cancel’ (or make them unfamous) people because of something bad they said in their lifetime. And you might be saying “well I mean that doesn’t sound too bad” but let me tell you a bit more. The types of things they use as evidence to cancel said person would literally be from when they were literally kids. So if, somehow, a video got out of them pronouncing the word “gay” wrong when they were first learning to talk, they would take that and be like “cancel this hoe, she doesn’t respect the LGBTQIA+ community” and then their whole career goes down the drain. Basically the people who support cancel culture are the so called “snow flake” generation. And that I agree with. The only cancelling I will agree with is cancelling cancel culture.

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What is so aggravating about it is that the person could have completely changed from what they had been like 10 years ago and they would still be cancelled. I could be cancelled for this post because of the fact I think cancelling people for what they said years back is bad, but like people change bitch. Unless they said it the other day and don’t actually regret it, get over it because we all make mistakes. The things I have seen people have to apologize for are actually ridiculous. There was this one hilarious video I had watched, I forget what it was about, but it was so funny. It was by Spencerwuah I think, and it was the tiniest thing about literally nothing and people in the comments were like “oh my god I can’t believe you just said that” “address it” “oh my god some people are just so awful” and there are points where you actually think it’s a joke but it isn’t and your like who the fuck hurt you to be so sensitive.

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People’s whole career’s get ruined for it too. Like when we are kids our parent’s tell us things and we believe them because we don’t know what else to think, like we haven’t made our own opinions yet. And then later on in life people learn that maybe their opinion isn’t right and so they change who they used to be, but people don’t like to see that. No matter how much they apologize, their career that they once loved has just disappeared. Now don’t get me wrong, there are some things that aren’t ok such as recent discoveries about James Charles and Shane Dawson being actual pedophiles, but like that is a literal crime and absolutely disgusting and it is recent with actual evidence that they did it. But like for other times, people really do just twist words. And they also just don’t give them a chance to defend themselves or correct themselves. Kind of like if one time they misgender someone and then they are like “Oh sorry, what are your pronouns?”, all the cancel culture bitches will be like “don’t try to make yourself look like the victim you are so close minded” when in reality they just made a mistake.

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So just to finish I suppose, cancel culture needs to be cancelled because people change and some of the evidence you use to prove your point is ridiculous. But don’t get me wrong, if there are pedophilia charges or rape charges, those people don’t deserve to have freedom, but if it is something from 10 million years ago, they have probably changed so get your dramatic, pasty Karen ass out of here because we don’t wanna hear it. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself (unless you are a pedophile or rapist) PERIODT


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Weekly Reminder

Hello guys, so I have posted in like two days but don’t worry it was just for my birthday so didn’t really have much time, but I’m back now so we are good to go. And what a better way to get back into things than a weekly reminder you know. I don’t really have a set theme for today to be honest, but I guess I want to make it more motivational this week I suppose. But this is also coming from the least motivated person in the entire world, but I always seem to give better advice to others than I do to myself so lets get into it I suppose.

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My school makes all of the 5th years do a careers talk with a career advisor. And during mine he was asking me if I was interested in going to school next year or university. Me being the indecisive bitch I am, I said that I had always wanted to go back to school, but at the moment I don’t know because I don’t have the motivation for it and I kinda don’t know if it is for me (but that is a whole other story). And he told me that he was hearing that a lot from other people in my year, especially during quarantine. He said that our lives have completely been turned upside down and the school state of mind we had built up was completely shot down so it is understandable that we are rethinking these types of things. And that is so true you know. I mean in my most important years of school I barely studied for more than 1 hour that whole year and me being confused is normal. Nobody else has ever been through this type of thing so we, the generation who were previously fucked up, have no guidance and nobody to relate to that actually knows what we are going through. So I guess this information might be better for those wondering whether or not to go back to school, but I will tell you how you can benefit from this if you aren’t going to school or anything like that. I would also like to mention that not going back to school is completely fine and I respect that, so if somebody thinks I sounded like I was being judgmental, I wasn’t trying to be

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So now for all those who aren’t thinking about returning to school and just over all have low motivation and confusion about what their future is going to be like. I am going to start of with the cliche “it is totally ok” because honestly it is. I think that after all the shit you have gone through for over a year, or maybe more than that depending on your life, it is your right to feel like you have been knocked of the tracks of life. It takes a very strong person to be unfazed by what is going on because pretty much everything changed in the blink of an eye. I still remember the day that I came home from school and sat down with the news playing on the TV and the whole world was told that we must go into lockdown for the foreseeable future. So in that split second, what was expected to be a week off school, turned into 6 months of complete lockdown. I didn’t step back into school for 6 months and that all changed in one split second. So that is a shit load to process and we had to restart that process every time the news changed and that was literally every day. So don’t beat yourself up for not knowing what to do next. Give yourself the respect and the time you need to process what has happened and move on from there when it is right for you. Although it may seem that we are expected to bounce back from all of this like it is natural, it is totally ok for you to take the time you need to readjust. I am not sure how long that will take for you but it will happen eventually so ride out this wave and don’t try to speed up the process because that won’t be helpful for you in the long term. I guarantee you that you are not alone and I know that if you were to ask someone if they know what they are going to do next or what their future holds, no matter what stage of life they are in, the will most likely say “I have no fucking clue” and that is fine because you can figure it out together. You quite literally have your whole life to figure it out.

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I hope this helped you guys out their who feel a bit lost and unmotivated because I know that I do. I am young and still have so much ahead of me which is fucking scary, but we are in this together ok. So please feel free to comment down below how you have been feeling lately and maybe someone will reply saying they feel the same way. Like and follow for more content like this and make sure to look at my other posts which are more comedic and different to this post. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT


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Weekly Reminder | Who Is The Baddest B*tch?

For the past couple of weeks I have been making more comforting weekly reminders, but it’s about time we speed this shit up. Its time for some hype and I am here for it. This is gonna be cringed as fuck but I don’t give a crap because it is what it is and nobody even cares!

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You see, we live our whole life wondering “what will they think about me” and “that will be embarrassing” as if we should give a fuck. You are the baddest bitch and nobody can top it. If they are judging you, they just are pointing out the things they wish they had. I’m not about to go and preach “life is short” because I think it is a fucking long time to be honest, but no matter how long you live, there is no time for crap and you should be using that time to live your best life. I mean think of it. What good comes out of thinking about what others think? Literally nothing. You get fake friends. You have low self-esteem and you most likely live in fear id being caught. But when you live like you want, you may have less friends, but those that you have are the best, and you don’t have to be fake, you are more comfortable being yourself.

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It is always when after you change yourself that you realise it was a mistake, so let me save you the time. If you are thinking about everyone else but yourself when making a decision, don’t fucking do it. Block out all the noise telling you that it matters what they think because chances are they don’t give a fuck and chances are they aren’t going to benefit you at all. Whether you like it or not, you are the only thing that matters, and for some reason we can never accept that, but if anyone dares tell you otherwise just remember what a bad bitch you are. You don’t need the validation of any fucking person because you are all you need and others are just a bonus. You need to live your best life, and you need to block out any person that tries to take that away from you because they have no right to take your shine. So whenever you go out to a party, or even just to the supermarket, you go in like the confident bitch you are because people should be honored to even say hello to you. You are one of the greatest people in that room and can’t nobody tell you otherwise.

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So don’t you dare listen to anyone else. Listen to this and only this because everyone else is telling lies, but this is the truth and I know it. You need to know it too. Take a look what you can do and have done. You have gone through a pandemic, through life, your live on the ‘Goldilocks’ planet, breathing, sleeping, digesting, putting smiles on peoples faces, changing the world with every step you make. Nobody like you has ever or will ever be on this planet, so you gotta show them all that you got. Go down in history because you are so amazing and unique and inspiring. I love you and so do so many other people. Make sure nobody ever underestimates you. You are worth so much more than their time and their thoughts and all the things that they judge you for. Live the life you want and shout “eat my dust bitches”. Become friends with those on your level, the ones who match your speed. And if they start to slow done, you keep going. You keep doing what you need to do because that is what you want to do and nobody should take that goal away from you. PERIODT

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The “Snowflake” Generation | Time For The Truth

Lately this whole “snowflake generation” thing has become a universally known term to describe Gen z. They say it because we are to sensitive or fragile, because, well, I guess we take things too seriously or we are too awkward to do certain things like standing up for ourselves. And I know that you are all going to comment things like “complaining about being a snowflake makes you a snowflake” and “wow they really are sensitive” but I just kinda wanted to shed a little light on what I, a Gen Z, think of the title.

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The other day we were talking about some of the words that we can’t say for obvious reason. For example, as a white person there are words I can’t say and other things like that. And then the adults were kind of talking about how “you can say these words just don’t say them to other people” and they were talking about how we can say it. Now I just looked at them so confused because they were rambling on about this, and if I said anything about it, such as “we don’t have the right to say that whether or not it is in a song, or a book or a general conversation”, I would be hit with the “your such a snowflake lol” and that would be the conversation over. But that just really annoys me because I feel like that is just the right thing. Just a way to educate people that despite the fact you think it is ok to say certain things, it really isn’t and we need to change how we act sometimes. So for me at least, I don’t think that standing up for what is right shouldn’t be labeled as being too fragile. Maybe our generation is trying to teach the older generations that times have changed and we want to start improving certain things that they would have seen as normal.

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I also find that my way of talking to my friends or my sisters is a lot different to how older generation do it. Like, me and my sister could be just being sarcastic and ‘mean’ to each other, but like in a jokey way, and my mum would be raging and saying we should be nicer, but that is just how we communicate. We tend to make a lot more jokes than other people and they don’t take that very well. For example, my dad came in and was talking about something that he made sound really dramatic but pretty much was just about how his friend bought something in the shop or something like that and I was like “wow that was such a great story dad”, but like sarcastically and he was so offended. I just looked at him and back at my sister and I was so confused because it was pretty obviously a joke. And then whenever my sister would be like “that garden is so ugly” or something random like that, I would go “you’re so ugly” and then we just laugh it off. Basically we say random jokes and kind of shows that we are close enough and respect each other enough to do that, but then my parents would literally be calling a therapist because she thinks I am bullying her or something. So if we really are “snowflakes”, then why would we be talking to each other like that. We don’t even take offense to it, but the older generation do. So who is the snowflake now bitches.

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My other argument for it is that I feel like a lot of people call us snowflakes because of our mental health situation. Like all the Karen’s will be talking about how everyone is depressed or mentally ill because we take things so seriously and we just need to relax, but then they ignore the actual reason so many of us are mentally unstable. Let me just name 5 points for now, just as a wee eye opener ok. There is school, social media, global warming, pandemic, meeting parents expectations… oh wait we are at 5 already. Damn, I didn’t even get warmed up. Now you can look at that list and think “well we went through multiple of those things too” and yes, you did, well done, but times have changed since you were at school and there are more pressures and problems at the moment. In the past, you didn’t have to pay for university. You didn’t have social media which is so confusing and impactful in our lives. You had global warming but you kind of caused it and didn’t change things when you could and now you are leaving it all up to us to fix it and also blaming us for it. You weren’t told that we only have to 2050 before it is controllable. Unless you are over 100 years old, you have never been in a global pandemic. You have most likely not had pretty much all of your important school years at home, where you had to teach it to yourself and nothing stayed normal for more that 1 hour. And the last one, parents expectations, you guys did have this too and I know that. It was a big one for all of us but I put it in just to remind you that we don’t try to disappoint you, no matter what we do. I know for a fact that we all want to make you proud, and that can be stressful sometimes. So maybe think about the real reason behind our mental state before you go off blaming it on the fact we are too sensitive, because maybe you should blame it on the fact we are too tired.

So you can call us snowflakes if you want, but snowflakes make an avalanche and that is what we are. Our generation is going to make a change and we are going to create something strong and powerful. I know that is cheesy as fuck, but I think it makes sense. Maybe as individuals we seem “fragile” but when we are all together, there is nothing stopping us PERIODT.


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The Maybe Story

Today I wanted to share a story with you guys that I heard a while back. It is a random story but yet it has a big meaning behind it. So grab a cuppa tea and enjoy.

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There was this old Chinese farmer who spent all of his days working on his crops, until one day his horse ran away. When the word got around, his neighbors would come over saying “that is so bad”, “that is so unlucky” and “we are so sorry”. And he would look at them, shrug and then say “maybe”. A few days later, he woke up to see his horse had come back and had brought more wild horses with it. Again, the neighbors found out and came running over to his farm shouting “this is so great”, “how lucky” and “you must be so happy”. And again, the farmer shrugged and said “maybe”. The next day, his son was riding one of the horses around the field, when it started leaping up and threw his son, breaking his leg. Just like clockwork, the neighbors came with sorry faces crying “this is awful”, “how unlucky” and “you must be sad”. Once again, he shrugged and said “maybe”. The next day the soldiers came around to each and every house, taking ever able young man to fight in the war. When they got to the farm, they took one look at the son and thought “he has a broken leg. He will be no good for us” and they drove off. Now all the neighbors came over. They were talking about how their sons were taken away and were rambling on about how lucky and happy he must be.

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You see, that whole time, his neighbors thought he was absolutely crazy because no matter what happened to him, he always reacted with “maybe”. He never assumed anything of a situation. And all the time, things changed, something bad came from the good, but something good happened from the bad. So instead of overthinking the negatives, and crying over everything, he saw it as fate, as though it needed to happen. Why I think this story is so great is because it shows that we can’t look at every situation in black and white. Every situation isn’t just good or bad. But if we do look at it in this way, life is going to get really tough because we don’t realise that things happen for a reason, and that maybe something like breaking your leg, will make such a difference on your future. So instead of feeling sorry for yourself, be like the farmer. We have no clue what is to come next or what it will do to our future, so we need to fix how we view situations. You could focus on the negatives, or you could look for the positives. Just don’ believe that your life sucks, because something great is just around the corner and we gotta wait for it. I believe everything happens for a reason, and if you are going through really tough shit right now, something great will come from it. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT


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What I Wish My Teachers Knew

In the many years of my school life, there are a lot of things I have realised, such as the quiet kids are forgotten and the loud, rude ones are adored. And there are many more, so I want to address some as if I had to tell a teacher what I think. If you are a teacher and you learn from this then you are as good as a teacher who already does these things already. Just because you hadn’t done these before, doesn’t mean you are a bad teacher because if you changed some things then it shows that you actually do care and I respect that so much.

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I wish that teachers started to talk more to their quiet students because I am one of them and, although it sounds a bit attention seeking, we have things that we are worried about and need help with, but we are too afraid to ask because that comes with so many repercussions, like drawing attention to ourselves and getting judged or shouted at by the other loud ones. I do understand that a lot of you do try but then because we are a bit awkward and quiet, you don’t really talk to them anymore. And I understand how that must be so awkward for you, but if you talked to us more than just the one time, you would see that we are actually nice people with a lot of things to say, we just don’t have the voice or confidence to say it. I know that for me, it means so much for a teacher to just say hello or just appreciate that we are there because a majority of the time, we get drowned out by the other people who act like complete idiots and are being so disrespectful to you. I just wish that teachers got to know all of their students and understand how they are feeling and what they are getting stuck on because it can be really tiring sometimes when you feel like you aren’t getting heard because despite the fact we stay quiet, we actually have an opinion. And to add to that, make sure that you don’t let the quiet people get bullied especially in your class because it is so obvious sometimes but teachers usually just laugh at them like “boys will be boys”. Showing that you care makes a big difference in our life.

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This is such a big one and since somebody mentioned this to me, I have always thought about this whenever meeting a new teacher. Are you a human before a teacher, or a teacher before a human. Now I am not accusing teacher’s of being literal lizards or something, but what I mean by this is, do you empathize with your students and understand that we make mistakes or forget things at times. And maybe you remember that nobody is good at everything so if we are struggling, actually understand and help instead of rolling your eyes like we are a burden. Here is a quick test to see whether you are a human or a teacher first.

  • When someone forgets their books do you a) shout at them and give some form of punishment or b) say that is ok and to try and remember next time
  • When someone forgets their homework do you a) shout at them and give a detention or b) tell them that is ok and to try and hand it in as soon as they can
  • When someone stops doing well in class do you a) embarrass them and make them seem lazy and a failure or b) after class ask them about what is going on in their life they need help with or just anything in class they need help with
  • When someone is late to your class do you a) tell them to stay after class and interrogate them for why they are late and tell them to never do it again or b) welcome them in warmly and if it happens multiple times ask them how everything is.
  • When someone doesn’t participate in class do you a) put them on the spot or point out their quietness or b) ask them if they are ok or just don’t understand anything
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I could go on all day asking you questions like these, but I think we have enough. If you answered mostly a) then you are a teacher before a human. If you answered mostly b) then you are a human before the teacher and I applaud you. When you are a human before a teacher, you are caring and understand students abilities and emotions and you actually care about their wellness and future. But if you are a teacher before a human, you are teaching them that mistakes are wrong and they are going to be useless. You teach them how to live in a military society and make them feel unwelcome and as though they are stupid. So please just know that we are just kids and teens who literally have no fucking clue what is going on or who we are. We have so many things to think about outside of school and just because we don’t do everything perfectly, doesn’t mean we are rude or disrespectful, we just need a bit of time to collect ourselves.

This happened to me just the other day where I was walking down the corridor and this teacher, who had clearly seen me, was walking past. This was an empty corridor, just me and her, and I went as close to the side as I could to be polite because, respect your elders and all that. But she literally barged into me and didn’t move as though I was the problem. Just because you have been on this earth for longer than me, doesn’t mean you can disrespect us. Respect goes both ways, so if you are getting talked over by students or generally not listened to, you probably just need to show us the respect we deserve. Don’t get me wrong, the younger years are bloody annoying so it is ok to put them in their place, but for the older years, we are nearly adults and at this point we are sick of your shit. We aren’t all bloody chavs and literal idiots and we do respect you, but only if you give us the same back. I just find it rude that they think everything they do is right and we are just invisible because we don’t want to be here any more than you do. You chose to be here. You get paid to be here. And all we get is a busy schedule and mental health problems.

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The last point that I wanted to mention today was that we actually appreciate some motivational talks, but it just depends on what type of one it is. Now, if you give us the same bullshit as everyone else, like on the first day back when you give us a talk about how we are gonna do so well and that we are going to make this year so great… save your breathe because we have heard that 10 times in one day already. There are some teachers that genuinely are so nice with what they say and you can tell in their voice and the way they look that they do actually mean what they are saying and actually care. These talks are the best, and when said at the right times, can make our day. My English teacher did one today and it did make my day a bit better. It was still a shit day, but not as bad as it could have been. But listen close to this. If you are ever going to make a motivational speech, no matter when you say it, don’t ever diminish what we are going through. This isn’t even just because of corona. This is every time of the year, in any decade, in any month, never make our situation look easier than it seems. I don’t mean that you should just say “your life is shit, school is shit and it will never get better” because we need to know that someone actually has hope. What I mean is that you shouldn’t be like “but if you think about it, you are actually really lucky and your better off than other years because blah blah blah blah blah”. Turn that shit off because I don’t wanna hear it. This happened not long ago from another teacher and I was just looking at her as if she just was mental because who the fuck is she to tell us how we should feel. She literally could have said something like “keep your head up because I am going to get you guys through this and you will do great” but instead you really had to assume what we think and feel. I do not feel luckier than any other years and I most certainly don’t think I got it easier because this has fucking sucked so much and having you put words into our mouths is making this situation feel so much worse. You make us feel isolated or dramatic because we think nobody else feels this way. Try not to be too uplifting with things and think before you speak I guess.

If you are a teacher and you have made it this far, you are a real one. I know that you care and aren’t offended by what I said because it is the truth and you want to help improve your students lives. I really appreciate it if you are one of those teachers because you are going to change someone life. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT


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Weekly Reminder

I don’t know about you guys, but this week has been tough as shit for me. This whole week I have been waiting to post a weekly reminder because there is something I have want to say to you. It’s something that you probably haven’t heard this week, or this month, but I want to say this to you and I want you to understand that I genuinely mean it, ok? And despite the fact this post is public, it was made for you directly because I know you need it.

I am so proud of you. I admire you so much for being able to make it to this very moment. Despite the pain and the exhaustion you have felt, you have made it do far and although others may not recognise it, I am so proud and thankful that you have made it this far. A lot of times, whenever we ‘joke’ about making it to another day, people shrug it off as though as though living is a piece of cake, but I recognise that living each and every day is a chore for you and that I am so happy you keep going.

Although you may. Not recognise it, there are so many people that need you every day. There are people who you have helped just by being there and it is difficult to see how much you mean to people, but you have to trust that you mean so much to the world. No matter if you just stay in bed all day, you have accomplished so much by just being here. Now don’t take that as me saying it is fine for you to live that way because it is obvious you need help from a professional, but don’t down play the fact that you are so strong.

This was just a small weekly reminder, but if you are to only remember one thing today, make it this. You are so strong and you mean so much to this world. I am proud and inspired by you. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT


I Need Your Help

Hi, if you don’t know me, I am a straight white teenage girl with no disabilities and just a mental health problem. What does that mean? That means that the only discrimination I have faced is being a woman. Now, there has been problems with sexism at the moment, but over all I have got it pretty easy. But I want to use that to help others too. And the only way I really know how to do that would be to use this platform to get people to listen.

That is where my next problem comes into play. How am I supposed to help when I know very little about what you guys go through and what YOU want me to do. Because I could write a whole essay about equality, but it would do fuck all because I don’t know what you guys really want us to do. So please, no matter what it is that you go through, whether it is a disability, race, sexuality, anything, can you please comment below something that you guys want us, the people who are can use your privilege to help, to do in order to help you guys or just be aware of certain things. You can leave a story about a time where you were discriminated against and say what you would have wanted someone to do to help, or just state anything. If you are comfortable of course.

I’m going to admit, I know very little about what others go through but I want that to change. I mean I am a sympathetic person but I also feel stuck on what to do and sometimes I can be a bit ignorant. On TikTok there was this guy with a stutter and was talking about how saying “did I stutter” was insulting. And I had said these before and didn’t think anything from it. So please educate me and everyone else on the internet because although we will never know what you go through and how you feel, I want to be able to do the most I can to make you feel safer or more included in the world.

So I am sorry if I sound like your basic bitch trying to get clout or something. This is not a trend, this is a real life problem and I would appreciate it so much if you guys could help spread awareness. But yeah, that is pretty much it. Just know that you are perfect just the way you are. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT


Weekly Reminder

Hey guys, another week has gone by and for a lot of us, we may be going back to school next week. Well, I am anyways. I have a total of 18 exams in the next 5 weeks, all which goes towards my GCSEs (aka decides my future) so to say I am scared would be an understatement. Have I revised? No. Will I revise? I have no clue bitch. But I guess I just want to make this weekly reminder about the fact that, just because you are finding revision and school hard to get done, doesn’t mean you are lazy or dumb. Here’s what I mean

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For the past year we have been chucked left and right, up and down, with no support or recognition. Yes, the government say they “understand” us, but they fucking don’t. Yes I can hear that they seem sympathetic, but answer me this, what have they done about it? What teenager have they seriously talked to about how they have been affected? What have they solved? Well, for the UK, the answers are, they have brought all the exams forward with little understanding of what we are being tested on or help with the topics. They have asked no teenager about their feelings and have just went off of stereotypes like “the reason they are struggling is because they are on their phone all day” or “they just don’t like school and that is why they are failing, they need to grow up”. And to answer, what have they solved… I have no fucking clue. I guess they are trying to give us a fair shot on predicted grades. Oh wait, but they gave us no warning of tests, with little preparation while a lot of us are in an unhealthy mental state. Hmm, I guess they eventually got us all back into school. Oh, but we have been bombarded with work and stress and little time to breather or settle in. You see, the thing with our generation is that we don’t openly show our emotions, or at least not in a way other generations would understand. I don’t know about everyone else, but for me there is a bad stigma around struggling mentally and when we speak up about an issue, it is seen as “disrespectful”. Then when everything gets to much and a tragedy happens, they wonder why we didn’t speak up and so they have an assembly. Then the cycle starts again. We miss a homework, the teacher gets mad, we tell them it is because we are struggling, they ignore us, something bad happens, they never learn from their mistakes.

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You see, when you miss a homework, or when you don’t have the energy to revise, it is OK. And I don’t care what your mum, dad, carers, teachers, anyone, says because they have no fucking clue what is going on. Not the faintest fucking idea. And I have no clue what your situation is right now, but I know that there is something going on in your life. Whether it is just Corona or something else, you have something going on and I hear you. Don’t let anybody make you feel weak for the way you feel, or downplay the severity of your problems because it is not your fault and you need to know that. Shit happens, but for you, too much shit has happened. I am sure missing homework or failing exams is the least of your worries and that is just how these feelings are being expressed. Yet nearly every teacher is blind to that fact. They don’t see you thoughts, they don’t know your story, they don’t see the real you. So no matter how much they harass you, just understand this isn’t your fault and I am not gonna promise you it will get better soon because I don’t fucking know. I sure hope it does, but I can’t promise that. All I can say is that you aren’t alone. You have your whole class behind you, you have me behind you and no teacher can fully understand what you are feeling at the moment. Maybe you don’t even understand, that’s ok though. Life has been changing every single day since the beginning of 2020. News changes, families change, school changes, our routine changes. And just when we feel a bit settled in to one way of life, it is shifted. I know that for me, one of the many reasons I struggle with doing things such as homework or studying is because I feel as though it is going to change, as though I will start to revise and it will all be cancelled. As though I will have to go through all the mental pain of school and then all the mental pain of realizing it was all a waste. These past years have been filled with so much pain and we just don’t want that to continue any longer.

So, if you were to take one thing from this post, let it be the power to not let people make you believe that you are just lazy and that you are overreacting, but that you are confused and tired or the changes and pain. You are so strong and not doing homework doesn’t diminish that. Don’t let ANYBODY tear you down or make you feel less of yourself. Do you realise how much you have gone through to get to this moment? It is amazing how you have made it this far. Nobody knows your journey apart from you, so don’t let them write your future. Hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.


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Who Am I?

No I am not about to do a proper “face reveal”. I am talking about the fact that as a teenager we are expected to understand who we are and what we want to do for the rest of our lives, yet, the fact is, nobody has any fucking clue. And that’s ok

I always thought that I understood what I wanted to do. There was a guy I liked since primary school, I wanted to be a police woman and probably move to America or something. But, to describe it in 2 words, shit happens. The guys I liked emotionally destroyed me, I don’t know if I want to be restricted to working in one place, and, well, do I really need to say anything about America? No. The other thing is, that isn’t who I am. The job I get, the person I have a relationship, the place I live, isn’t who I am. I don’t think I ever have and I don’t know if I ever fully will.

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I am in my last year of GCSEs, so I am nearly 16. Not even 2 decades have I lived on this earth, yet I have made so many life changing decisions that I can’t go back and change. There are so many things that are shut off now because of what I had to choose, yet it could have been something that was perfect for me. And it is crazy because you let us make life changing decisions, but you don’t let us watch a scary movie in the cinema. My life is a horror movie in itself so I don’t think a movie will scar me. You let us make life changing decisions, but you don’t let us go to the toilet when we need to, we gotta ask the teacher. You let us make life changing decisions, but speak down to us like we are dirt. It really doesn’t make sense. How do I know that in 20 years I will still want to do the thing that 16 year old me wanted to do. So many things change and if I shut the door to things now then what if I need it in the future.

It is bloody scary because I do not want to end up in a job that I took just to pay the bills. I want to get a job that makes me excited to start the day, because I don’t know how I would survive anything else. I want a job that fits in my pocket. That I can take to the beach with me, on trips, on a boat, on my sofa in my dream home. I don’t want to wake up each morning thinking that I NEED to do work. I want to wake up and think I WANT to do work. So what can get me that? A degree? A but load of debt from Uni? All A*s on my report card? Well, that is what the school system has taught me, and sure, they teach us everything, right? Hell no. They want me to be a part of the system so why would they teach me to get out of it? Now, not all teacher’s are like this, but I know so many that suck the life out of you and pretty much desensitize you to life and convert you into a factory lifestyle. And yes, we do have the world at our finger tips. I can search up how to start a business, how to make money and get out of the ‘rat race’ but let me tell you something. It is fucking tiring and yes I know I have a blog on how to make money but that is just my way to try and make it easier for those my age. We get so much homework that we have no bloody time to think for ourselves, none at all. I am lucky enough to have learnt a bit but only because of lock down. I would have to say that it was a blessing because it was my time to actually crawl my way out of the system, and that has brought me to many difficulties along the way.

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I still don’t know who I am and I know that you don’t to. I guess I just wanted to tell everyone that if you are feeling the same way, it is totally ok. I know you are always told to just take the subjects you like and the choices you feel comfortable with and I do believe that to an extent, especially with subject choices. But since when did success come easy? Weren’t we told to take risks if we wanted to be successful. We are told so many things every day, every week, every year. And now we don’t know what or who to listen to. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling confused on how to move forward with your life. You may not know for a while, but you need to know that when you find that thing that you want to do, it will be so much easier to fight through the tough moments. Getting to the place you want to be will be so much easier, so don’t try to force your way into something that will make you feel horrible. I am sorry you haven’t got the support you need to discover who you are but it is ok and you aren’t alone. I could guess that a majority of adults don’t know who they truly are. We are still young though. Although we are expected to do a lot, we still have the time to travel and change. Don’t worry if you make a bad decision because if it is meant to be, you will get there eventually.

Our whole life is dedicated to discovering who we are and some people find out to late. My advice? Sacrifice the things people think you need to succeed, and do the things YOU know you need. They probably won’t believe in you but use it to drive you. Think of there face when you tell them ‘I now get payed for something I love, something I believe in, and all that worry and pain of getting there is so worth it”. I believe in you guys, OK? And I believe that everything is going to be ok, no matter who you are. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.


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Weekly Reminder + Appreciation Post

Hey guys, so I woke up this morning, obviously, and looked at my phone. And then I saw that I had 100 followers! I mean damn, that is literally 100x the amount of friends I have in real life. It sounds unbelievable for me to say that in under 3 months I got this many followers. This may seem like it isn’t that much but I am actually kind of proud of it. For every like and every follow I just feel happy that my content might have had some sort of impact on them. I have never really felt as though people liked listening to what I have to say but you guys all make me feel appreciated. Yes, I have never actually met you all but I feel like we are connected in some way because we might feel the same way in some aspects of life or we both have the same sense of humour.

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The first thing I want you guys to take from this is that you should just go for it. I am not sure what ‘it’ is for you, but if you have a dream that you want in life, just do it, because I always thought that I was so weird for some of the things I thought and that nobody would actually like it, yet here I am with 100 followers. Out of all the billions of people in the world, somebody will see what you do and appreciate it. They will look at your profile and think, this is pretty cool, they really are motivational. I am not saying that that is what you think of me, I am just saying that you might do something that gets that reaction. And I know this kind of all seems over the top. I mean I am giving inspiration to others even though I only have 100 followers, but to me I appreciate every single one. So if you think that what you want to do will be hated on or will never go somewhere, how do you know that is true? Have you tried yet? Did you get even one person because that is an achievement in itself. Even if it takes a long time, that feeling you get when someone interacts is so amazing and so worth it. You just gotta wait.

So the second, and last thing, I wanted to say is that I appreciate every single one of you. Every time I see one like, one view, one comment, one follow, I get so excited. And I just wanted to let everyone here know that I appreciate you. You may think I am lying because I have never actually met you guys, but for every single person that comes on here, I feel motivated to keep going, and if you weren’t here right now, I wouldn’t get that and, who knows, I may have given up already. Life is tough as crap at the moment and talking about it here, on this platform, makes everything just that little bit better, but having people that actually listen and feel the same has made such a big difference and I want to say thank you. Thank you so much for being here.

Anyways, thank you for reading this and again I just want to say thank you so much for 100 followers. Every single one of you mean so much to me. You really have no clue what it means. But yeah like and follow if you want to read more content like this. For the newbies, go check out my other posts because not all of them are like this. Hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.


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Weekly Reminder

Hi guys! You made it through the week! I am so proud of you. That week was a bloody roller coaster with all the things about the royalty and the world in general. If you live in the UK you will know that Piers Morgan has left ‘Good Morning Britain’. To add to the good news we also have less corona deaths which is a great thing. So yeah, I am so proud of everyone for actually making it to this post. Thank you for being here.

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So what I thought would be a good weekly reminder for this week is to make sure everyone knows that they deserve happiness. Yup, this is something that a lot of people find really hard to accept, me included. And I am not gonna go give you ‘Ten Top Tips To Love Yourself’ because, firstly, the advice is utter crap, they literally say to get a bath and get over it. Secondly, I am no professional, so if I was to go out here and give advice, it would end very badly.

In my experience, I always questioned ‘why do I deserve to be happy while there are people out there who are doing so much worse than be’. I felt as though I was being selfish and stealing the happiness from others, when the truth is I just have the opportunity for help and so will they someday. No matter what happens in life, there is always somebody worse than you, and that may be really unhelpful to say, but what I mean is that, if you feel this way, there is never going to be a point where you say ‘I deserve to get help’. Do you get me? You need to ask yourself ‘when will I be worse enough to deserve help?’. Usually that answer is something really bad, but you need to use that to your advantage and think ‘if I am thinking about getting to that situation, then I need to get help right now before I go there’. No matter what happens in your life, whether you get overwhelmed by the smallest thing or you going through a really really tough time, you deserve help’. Everybody has different threshold for what they can cope with, and if you find it hard to cope with even the smallest thing, that isn’t something that should be ignored. The thing is, you don’t live their life, and they don’t live yours. So no matter what, if you are finding it hard to live in your situation, that is reason enough to get help. Now I do understand that is easier to say than to do but just read this when you need a reminder because it is true and it is important.

No matter what anyone else is going through, if you are struggling AT ALL, you deserve to get help. Ok? Please remember that.

Thank you so much for reading. I hope you liked this post and it benefited you in some way. You all matter to me and I am so happy that you made it through the week. I am very proud. Please like and follow if you liked this content and wanna read more. Hope you have a great day, stay safe, and stay yourself PERIODT


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For Who?

I wrote those two words on a post-it note yesterday. It’s simple, but out of context it probably seems a bit strange. But what does it mean for me?


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Let’s bring this back a wee bit. So I am trying affiliate marketing and I am learning how through ‘Legendary Marketer’. I won’t go into too much detail about them but that is just a wee bit of information. I purchased their 15-day challenge and I am on day 5 now. I still have the motivation to do it, despite the fact I had to let down their blueprint offer due to financial issues. I asked my mum for a bit of financial support and of course she was skeptical and was unsure if I should purchase it. I am completely fine with that too because it was a large sum of money despite the discount. My confidence took a little bit of a dip though. She looked up some other peoples opinions and they said that it takes a lot of time and hard work. I knew that though. But I don’t know if I was tired, or what, but I just kind of thought ‘maybe I am overreacting about this opportunity? I should just quit now and pursue a normal career like everyone else’.

So what did I do? I went upstairs and sat for a bit. A bit depressed at the thought that I might just have to work a 9 to 5 job. I literally thought to myself, ‘I will not be able to carry on this life if I need to go to University and then work a boring job with financial stress and all that shit’. After I thought about that for I while I finally said ‘if I don’t want to live life as expected, then I won’t. I am going to keep going and if I fail, then we will go from their’ and I was later thinking about what could help me to sustain this motivation. The answer may be different for everyone else, but, for me, as you probably could tell from the title, I came to the conclusion that I am not just doing this for me. No, because that would be too risky, I would only disappoint myself if I quit. So I have the question ‘for who?’ written in my room to remind me of the main reason I want to become financially successful because I can’t fail for them. I need to be successful for them, my family. This probably looks as though I am seeking attention, but I am just showing you what I find motivates me to keep going so that you guys can be inspired to change.

For teenagers especially, I feel as though we are underestimated because ‘we aren’t smart enough’ or ‘not as well informed’ but yet we are the generation that grew up with technology. Of course I don’t know everything, it is impossible, and yes I could get scammed but I don’t look at the ad that says ‘get 10 iPhone 12s just by putting in your email’. I mean I know a scam when I see one. It can be harder for teenagers to focus on one goal as well because we fell as though, no matter what happens, we have a plan B, a safety net. This can be great and I am glad to have one, but it means that I won’t try as hard to make everything work because, if it doesn’t, I will just move on. I still have school, a social life, a family, a roof over my head. If you do, however, only focus on that one thing and don’t have any Plan B, I am impressed and you are on the right track but we all get scared of being judged. I don’t know how to describe Affiliate Marketing to anyone because I am still quite new but that means that they feel as though I just want to get rich quick. That isn’t it though, I want to learn the skills that will make me financially stable in the future. I feel as though, if I told someone that I am really committed to this and I feel as though this will be what makes me financially free, they won’t believe me or trust me. What I have to remember though is that they didn’t grow up with the access to all this and so of course they won’t trust it. I just have to trust my gut feeling and work harder to prove my point that teenage girls can still accomplish this. To show the world that I am not settling for anything less than my dream. That I will make it.

Thank you so much for reading. Please like, follow and donate some money if you can so I can keep all of my content free for everyone. I really hope this inspires you to look for your reason. Why are you doing what you are doing? What do you want out of it? I hope you have a great day, stay safe, and stay yourself PERIODT.


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Weekly Reminder


I was watching a video today which has the author of ‘rich dad, poor dad’, Robert Kiyosaki, and he mentioned something that kind of shocked me. He was talking about his dad who had a PhD and was really successful in college, and then continued on with the topic of the video, which was the different mindsets of different people. But the thing was, as the video went on he finally said something along the lines of ‘and my poor dad, the one who got his PhD and continued his career in university’. This made me stop for a second. When I first heard about the dad who had a PhD, I thought that he was the rich one. My mind just linked the book smarts with success.

It makes me think, you know, about how we have been programmed to think in a certain way. From the start of our life we have been told that to become rich and successful, we need to do well in school. But what Kiyosaki also mentioned in his video, was that the school system don’t want you to know about money or how to make it. He said that his PhD dad told him that the government gave them orders on what to teach and what not to teach. They want to make us into employees, not bosses. Now I am not gonna go into a whole tangent about schools but what I am going to say is that, school doesn’t teach you everything you need to know. You probably already knew that though. I mean what student can look you in the eye and say, I know how to pay taxes, I know how to pay the bills, I know how to invest in stocks. I can guarantee you that only a very very small percentage can say that.

I don’t want anyone to get confused here though. I am not saying that his ‘poor dad’ is unsuccessful, because there is no definite definition of success. Maybe his dads calling was to learn a lot about a certain topic and pass it on to other generations. Maybe where he ended was his success. Money isn’t the deciding figure for everyone’s success. I mean maybe it is for you. I sure as hell no that it is part of the success for me, and that can be a controversial thing to say because people always argue that ‘money can’t buy you happiness’. Do you know what? You’re true. It can’t buy me happiness, but it can sure as hell buy me experiences which will make me happy. Money, for me, has a huge impact on what I view as success. I want to be able to live my life as I want it, while helping other on the way. I want my parents to be able to not have to work for the rest of their lives. My view of success for my future is financial freedom. You can say I am materialistic. You can say I am selfish. But I am not. Everyone has been corrupted in their views of billionaires and millionaires and so have I because you feel as though they are selfish and don’t give any money for any good. I am with you on that, I am completely with you on that. They do need to give more. But having lots of money doesn’t mean they are bad people, it just means that they have worked hard.

Over all, I just want to get across that you can’t morph your future into the expectations of other. We don’t all think the same and you shouldn’t think that doing well in school is the only option for success because, as Robert Kiyosaki showed, even a knowledgeable man was living paycheck to paycheck. You kind of just got to focus on what you can achieve and go for it. If you are interested in reading his book ‘rich dad, poor dad’ then click here and you can get one. I just ordered it too but I haven’t got it yet but I am so excited to start reading it.

Thank you so much for reading and I hope this inspired you even a little bit. If it did, please like, follow and donate some money if you can because I want to keep all of my content free for everyone. Hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.


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You know when you get that inspiration out of nowhere where you feel like your future is going to be different to everyone else. I mean, when you think about the 9 to 5 job that you grew up to believe was the better option, the safe option that gets you a family, a nice house, and in the end a decent pension, you begin to realise that it isn’t what you want. You get this moment of luxury where you think ‘wow. I could actually do this’. ‘This’ as in a well payed job where you do your own times, you get payed well, you can travel, you can live. A career which isn’t actually a ‘job’ but something you want to do. Where Mondays aren’t a burden. Where I want the weeks to go slower. Where I don’t count down the days until the holidays, but instead I can just go. Live my live the way it was meant to. Because I mean, after all, we only live once, so why not just go and do it. But then, that aftershock hits you down. Those thoughts creep back in. The thoughts that told you your whole life that you need a safe job. You need a man to work while you look after the kids and clean up. The world where you will wake up with a frown on your face just at the thought of doing work.

I mean it literally kills me when I hear my parents talk about their jobs in a way that makes it seem like they hate every second of it. I feel so bad that they can’t really get up and start a new career because I mean they are at a point in their lives where they have three teenagers who need food, who need a home, who need so much material items and emotional support. My mum or dad can’t just decide to take a risk because they know that those risks don’t only affect themselves. And I think that is what keeps me motivated. I don’t mean it as in ‘oh I don’t want to turn out like my parents’, because if I became half the woman my mum is today I would be so lucky. What I mean is that I want to start now where I am at the age where I can start something risky and the affects wouldn’t be as bad if it where to fail. My dream would be that in a few years, when I have done this and other things in the future, I would be able to go into my home, sit my parents down and tell them, ‘Mum, Dad. You never have to work another day in your lives.’. If I could pay them back in that sort of way, I wouldn’t even have returned half of what they have done for me, but I could give them the freedom they deserve. That is all I really want and I know you have probably heard this so many times but this is true. I really hope that money never becomes a problem for me and that I can provide for current family and, hopefully, my family in the future.

I guess that what I wanted to get across is that you will always get a moment where you can’t find the motivation what so ever. You will feel stranded and lost. You will feel as though it isn’t even worth it and that you could be relaxing now and work later. But what if you worked now and relaxed later. When that relaxation period is 10 times longer and 10 times larger. You just need to think to yourself about what the real reason you want to achieve that success is. Write it down if you like. But in that moment when your motivation is at its highest or when you realise why you want to do this, make sure you remember that. So many people will tell you that you can’t achieve your dream. People you know, people you don’t know. Everyone. They may laugh in your face or judge you or bully you but you need to keep going for yourself and for your future. This is going to be hard and there will be times where you want to quite and that is just part of the process but you just need too try and get back from that because if you do, and trust me on this, great things will come. You need to remember that they wont be laughing any more when you come out on the top with all you ever wanted, while they are at the bottom, scuttling to get where you are now. You don’t need to be mean to them. Just make them jealous. Show them how you are so much more resilient and successful. Just don’t give up PERIODT.


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!Schools Closed Until 8th Of March!

No this is not a joke. Schools in the UK are closed. But what do we do now. How will we cope through this seemingly never ending third lock down.


To be honest, I have no clue. I mean it only clicked with me today how long away March is. I mean it is still January. Boris didn’t even promise that we would be back before Easter so I mean I don’t know what I should mentally prepare myself for. Although it sounds good out of context, ‘school shut until March’, we still have to do school from home and at this point I am like ‘well if I’m still doing school work I might as well be in school and seeing my friends.’. I am pretty sure I already made a post about lock down and what it has kind of done for teens and how we are so confused now. I mean yes there are vaccines going out, in fact my grandparents just got them today, but for some reason it still doesn’t feel like the end. Even when everyone gets the vaccine, I just can’t get it into my head that it will be over. I feel like that is only one step in a whole pile of them. It is going to be weird though, going back to school and normal life. It is weird to think that one day everything will be as it was before. No masks, no distancing, no google classroom (I hope). It will kind of be like we just got woken up after a really intense nightmare. One day we will be going on with life and then just stop when we get a wave of memory and we’ll be like ‘damn we used to have to put on a mask everyday.’. It definitely will take some time to not instantly reach for a hand sanitizer or to not go onto the road to distance from someone.

Why is this turning into a story time. Anyways. This is going to be really tough. For EVERYONE, this will be tough. But as a community we need to stick together. I know this probably sounds like the 10th motivational assembly you had in school but take it from me, a 15 year old, and not an old man with a ‘relatable’ power point behind him. People are going to deal with this in so many different ways. Maybe you will start an online business. Maybe you will start to paint. Maybe, you will create the next great dish that will change the world of food as we know it today. There was a phase in the second quarantine, which was utter crap because schools were still open’, where I had convinced myself I had just become great at art. I don’t know why but I just had the feeling. I don’t really know where I am going with this story but yeah. I think that the third times a charm so hey, something great might happen really soon that could change your life. Do something you usually wouldn’t do because you are scared of being judged because guess what? You aren’t gonna be going out and seeing those people anytime soon. Die your hair, cut your hair, try new make up, new clothes. If your bank account is up for it anyways.

What we all kind of forget whenever we get more bad news is that it isn’t always going to be this crap all the time. I mean 100 years ago they had a pandemic and they were able to recover from it, even though they didn’t have all the resources we have today. There are so many excellent and smart people out there who are trying their best to make the world better again for you, for me, for all of us. It will be hard to believe that, I know. I mean last year I was like damn I can’t wait for this to be over in a few months and go on holiday next year. Well, look at me now. As pale as the snow and with literal back issues from sitting all day. But just remember that some day in the future you will be smiling with a passport in hand, the warm sun on your face, and the feeling of possibility. New Zealand have done it already. I mean they got through it so well and although we are just taking a bit longer 😦 we will still get their. You will see your friends, you will see another day, and you will see a life without masks.

What I would love though is if everyone could comment down below something you have started that got you through lock down or something they plan to do to get you through this one. I think it would be a great reminder of how we are all going through this. It is a global pandemic and I know that nobody will be going through the exact same thing as you, but you aren’t alone. I promise. We will get through this. Subscribe to my blog and we can do this together. I try to upload everyday and please comment below if there is something you want mentioned and I will make sure to include all of them in my future posts. Lets just take this one step at a time. This pandemic ain’t gonna get the best of us.


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I Have A Message For Everyone

Hello, I am the write of the blog ‘periodt’ and I am really thankful for this platform because I can talk about things that I struggle with and that a lot of people can relate to. But today I didn’t want to talk about more of what I go through, although there will be more in the future. Today I wanted to do an appreciation post for everyone. My followers, new arrivals, everyone. So enjoy.

I just want to say that if you are here right now, I am proud of you. I know that everyone reading this has gone through at least one hard time in their life. You may be going through it right now. But no matter how big or small that event was, you are here and you have done so well to still be here today. You can make it. I am not going to say it is all up hill from here because I really don’t know, but hey, you are so strong and so appreciated. If you have made it this far you can make it the rest of the way. And I know you may feel like giving up, you may feel like you have no energy left to keep going but please, if not for yourself, do it for me. I need you here, we all need you here and if you leave then the whole world is going to be missing a you. You may not see it now but in the future you are going to impact the world in some way. Please just hold on for a little longer. One day you are going to realize you aren’t alone and your story will help so many other people who may be going through something similar.

I also wanted to speak directly to people who identify as a man at any point in their life. Your feelings are valid. You having emotions is OK. You showing emotions is OK. You wanting to wear something more ‘feminine’ is OK. You being vulnerable is OK. Everything you do is OK. I am not a man but I know that you can feel as though you can’t cry, or be yourself, or do something you want to do but can’t because you are a man. If you identify as a man and you do something that is stereo-typically ‘feminine’ you are no less of a man. There are so many men who take their own lives because of what society has told them and I am so sorry about that. So many men are sexualized and abused and we just don’t hear about that because society says that men would want that anyways or they can’t be abused. That is so incorrect. You may have been taught that ‘men don’t cry’ or so many other things and I am so sorry about that. The things that you go through are not any less valid because you are a man. I can’t put into words all of the things that I want to say but just be you. Do whatever it is you want to do and be confident doing it because you are who you are and if anyone doesn’t like that then they don’t deserve to have you in their lives. Speak up about how you feel, don’t be afraid to report abuse, and take up as much space as you want because this is your life and we are just living in it.

So now I am going to talk generally about everyone else. Also I would like to add that if I have upset anyone in terms of gender, I am so sorry and please comment down below what you would like me to say or not say in the future because I want to make everyone feel included. Don’t be scared to say I did something wrong because I really want to learn about all of this and I am sorry for my ignorance. But anyways, lets move on. I want everyone to know that the world really is a cruel place but we need to stick together. As a generation we have gone through so much that nobody else can understand. There are so many ignorant people out there who still believe in the old views. They may still think there are only 2 genders and that being gay is wrong. I can’t speak about this personally because I am a straight girl who has caring parents but there are so many stories and videos of all the hardships you have to face and I am so sorry. You have no reason to apologize for being who you are because you didn’t have a choice. This is who you are and everyone needs to respect that. It isn’t like this is a whole new thing either. People didn’t evolve into being gay or something. Homosexuals and transgender people etc. have been around for ages it is just that bad people out there have shamed them into someone they aren’t and this generation are just the ones to start retaliating against this. You are being yourself for you, your ancestors and for the future. By standing up to idiots who think they know what is right or wrong, you are making a step into better future and I thank you for that. I am sure it is really scary what are doing because there are so many idiots but please don’t give up because you are doing great things. Never apologize for who you are. You are absolutely perfect and they are just jealous PERIODT.

Mental health wise also, no matter who you are out there, your thoughts are valid. They may not be good thoughts but it is OK to feel how you feel. You may not be fortunate enough to get free help but there are people out there you can talk to. And nobody here can say they don’t because I am here. Yes, please talk to me. I am not a professional but I am here to show you that you aren’t alone until you can get some professional help. If you are going through abuse, crime, anything, please know that you are OK and that I am here for you. You aren’t alone, this isn’t your fault, don’t feel guilty for anything you feel and I am proud of you.

Thank you all for reading this and I am looking forward to answering any comments or emails you guys send me. I appreciate you all and stay strong because the world needs a you PERIODT.

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Society Is Preventing Your True Potential – Beware The Trap

It’s weird how our view on work changes throughout our life. As a child we are told that we can be anything we want to be. This motivation was drilled into our mind from day one but then slowly over the years our dreams sound so… unachievable. And I mean why wouldn’t we think like that? Our parents and schools condition us to believe that we need to get great grades, go to university and get a 9 to 5 office job if we want to succeed. And if you ever have a dream, you better hold on tight to it because they will knock that down until there is not even a spec of hope.

It is sad how, when people ask you what you want to be when you are older, we all have a safe answer. We know that if we tell them the truth, they will laugh in our faces and make that wish feel like more of a dream and less of a reality. For me, my ‘dream’ job would be an actress. Not just because of the fame and money, but because I really like to act and I think that if I got a chance I could go far. And then with that position I can use my voice for good. Like with Emma Watson talking about feminism, and Leonardo DiCaprio talking about global warming. So what I would love about acting is that I could fulfill my passion for acting and then eventually my passion for making the world a better place. But have I told anyone that? No. I live in Northern Ireland which makes that dream seem so much more unachievable because there aren’t many opportunities. So now what I have to do with this dream is to keep it hidden because I mean I am just being to ambitious. There is no way that could happen to me. I am not that special. What I also don’t want to do is give them the satisfaction of being right when I don’t have the success that I wanted.

So what do I tell everyone then? Well, I tell them I want to be a police woman. And while that is true, it is also my safety job. This is my job that I know I can achieve and that will be respectable. I know it will give me the money I need for a home, food and security. What I also know is that, as a woman, I can find someone who I will love and will be my husband, hopefully. Because what we are grown up to believe is that, to be successful you need to get a safe job and be married. And I know how messed up that sounds but it is true. We learn that marriage is a safety belt, instead of learning that it is a bonus. We don’t need to be married and have kids. Unless you find somebody you truly love and you feel the time is right to have kids, then don’t get married. This is your life and you shouldn’t have to live it for someone else. But yeah, I mean I would love to be a police woman somewhere in the world because I want to make a difference. I want to be a part of the new definition of ‘police’ because right now, most police officers are racist, power driven people. Lately I have questioned whether or not I should be a police woman because I don’t want to be associated with racist murderers, and I am still trying to get my head around it, but I want to become a police woman in the aim to outnumber the racists and to provide a better role model for young children who can be heavily influenced by this prejudice.

It is weird also, the term ‘a successful job’. I mean what is it really? A doctor? A lawyer? A politician? I don’t think I have ever seen their name with the label ‘successful job’ written on it. A ‘successful job’ is just like saying a ‘normal human’. There is no normal human because we are all completely different. Really a successful job is not what your parents or society define it as. It is whatever is your passion and whatever you love doing. Say somebody who really loved writing books and poems. Their successful job is a writer, a poet. Not a lawyer or a office manager. And it is so easy to get sucked into these ideas because we see and hear them everyday. In school, on Instagram, our parents. So why wouldn’t you listen to them. These are the people who have raised us. People we have been with our entire life. That we trust. One of my favorite phrases was said by Prince EA. He said,

The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled

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And I don’t know why but it really hits hard. Probably because it is true. All the time you hear people getting knocked down for following their dream, and now you are scared for that to happen to you. You may think that it is too risky, or you aren’t good enough, but have you tried yet. How do you know those questions are true if you haven’t tried? Society have drilled these questions into your head and that is the thing holding you back. If you can push through that fear of failure or criticism then you are on the path to success, wherever that may be.

My last point that I will mention today is that work should not be the reason you are on this planet. It is sad to see how some people’s lives are just, grow up, go to school, get a job, retire, die. It pains me. Because then you are working your whole life for your future, but what is your future? I mean when you will retire it means you will have a roof over your head but you can’t do all the exiting things you wanted to do in the present. If you work all day, everyday, then all the money you are planning to have will be wasted. It will be safe in the bank, but what is the point. You will have no memories, you will have no stories. Nobody’s purpose in life is to sit at a desk all day and type in a bunch of 1 and 0. No ones. And right now, if you think it is your life, it is not and you just need to take the risk, have fun. Be rich in memories. Instead of graduating university and feeling down because ‘the best years’ of your life are over, make that the ‘beginning of the best years’ of your life. Get a job you enjoy, do what you enjoy and face any problems that come your way because the world keeps spinning and there are people who will support you and love you.

Thank you so much for reading this blog and I hope it helped you to open your eyes about the lies we are told throughout are life. Do what makes you happy and ignore those who don’t agree, they just jealous PERIODT.

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