The Story Of The Phrase That Changed My Life

Let me set the scene for you real quick. It’s 4.30am. You’re at the airport. You’re at the back of a long line for a service that hasn’t even opened yet. An hour ago you were asleep or at least just woken up by your alarm so you kinda feel like you’re in some sort of dream or parallel universe, but you still brought your eyebrow pencil to try and not scare everyone around you and to look half alive at least. Overall, you’re just uncomfy, and tired, and your back is aching from the carry on bag that you are using to hold all the useless crap that didn’t fit in your suitcase. So what do you do? Start complaining. You start to say “why is this flight so early?” and “why aren’t we even moving, I just want to go to bed!”.

Not a pretty sight, am I right? Well, I’m sure you can guess this was me last April on my way to Spain for the week. It was the first foreign trip I had taken since COVID and I was really excited, but, despite the fact I would say I’m a morning person, I’m not a crazy 3.30am wake-up type of gal, so we’ll say that morning wasn’t the most enjoyable. Funnily enough though, as I had one eyebrow completed, my friend’s mum and boyfriend came into the airport too. It was a nice surprise and they were on their way to go to Portugal. The line still hadn’t started to move so we chatted for a while, or, the mum’s chatted. They got onto how it was so early and how the airport hasn’t even opened yet, and then the boyfriend said something that kinda stuck with me.

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I don’t know if it was the fact I was practically sleepwalking or what, but what he said kinda “opened my eyes”. It wasn’t revolutionary, I knew exactly what he meant, but just in that situation it really changed my mood. I hope I’m not hyping this up too much though for real, but I’ll tell you what he said. In the middle of us talking about how fed up we were standing in this line and being up so early and already having made a mistake (forgetting to pre-pay for parking) he said…

“First world problems, am I right?”

Typing that out sounds less impactful but at that moment it really made me question why the fuck I was complaining. Really I was complaining about how I had to go and travel to a luxurious, warm country where I would be sunbathing and making great memories. I was literally complaining about how hard my life is having to wake up at 3.30am to go on a fucking holiday. When you think about it, I had no right to complain.

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And I apply that to so much in my life now. If my phone doesn’t work or I maybe have to wait another 5 minutes for my mum to pick me up from school, or if I’m slightly cold in my safe and secure home, I think about how lucky much worse it could be.

Sometimes when I say that I wonder if people assume that I’m dismissing all of their feelings because we can still have problems. Maybe they aren’t the same as everyone else’s, but we still have problems and we shouldn’t feel guilty for being sad in the life we have. Even with celebrities we look at them and think they have it all so when they feel lonely or sad then a bunch of us judge them and think they are ungrateful and ignorant, but in reality they are human and life isn’t easy even for the people who seem to have it all.

So I just want to make sure that what I mean by this post is that you should always look at the bigger picture, not to make yourself feel like a bad person, but to help you think through your problems and realise that it’s all going to be ok. It helps me to put a more positive light onto situations and then it just makes situations better for me. It isn’t just to keep you “woke” but it benefits your life because you take in every second of every horribly beautiful moment.

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I hope that made sense because it’s always hard to convey what you mean into text. That’s why I hated doing English in school because I would be able to understand and I got what they meant pretty much, but I either couldn’t put it into words, or I couldn’t put it into the words they wanted. So that’s great that I have a blog where communication is key *thumbs up*.

So yeah, I am gonna go now but I just want to give a heads up that VERY SOON I am going to release a post about 2 nights ago when I went to the concert of my FAVOURITE PERSON IN THE ENTIRE WORLD and when I say I cried after, it is no joke. I have that post-concert crisis/depression at the moment and it’s hitting real hard this time. So look forward to that ok! I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT.


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It’s All About Perspective

Ok guys, we aren’t about to get into some existential shit today because I don’t think I can take that at the moment, but I guess it kinda will be but like to a certain extent, so kinda just be warned about that but lets get started into it. This is another weekly reminder post but I am going to make it around the same vibe as my other posts because I find it hard to… write like I care. That sounds really mean but what I mean by that is that I struggle to not cringe when I try to write a post in an empathetic tone. I know I am disappointing my English teacher at the moment but like I don’t give a shit anyways. So sorry if you prefer reading things that are kinda sad, but I use humor to cope despite the fact my humor is crap so that isn’t the best but like we move. I also don’t know why I am typing all of this because I can guarantee that you don’t give a fuck. But yeah, I feel that when I try to write a post with an empathetic tone, I sound so fake, kinda like all the people in my school. Lets get into it anyways

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I saw this TikTok video yesterday and it was this girl that was replying to a comment that said “how are you so confident” and if I knew who that girl was I would shout her out but I don’t so like deal with it, but anyways, she was so… como se dice… perfect. Like she was a nice confident where she is outgoing but wouldn’t be like “fuck you” to every person who breathes near her. Anyways, that is besides the point, but she literally just said “because nobody fucking cares! In a couple of hundred years everyone on this earth will literally be dead and nobody will remember that thing you said or the clothes you wore or anything because it won’t carry on once we all die”. I mean unless you do something so awful like a proper historical downfall, you shouldn’t change for anyone. Like that person you are changing yourself for is gonna die and so are you so why are you trying to do something for them when eventually it won’t matter at all and you should live the life that you want when you have it.

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I always get a wee bit scared when I talk about doing whatever you want because it won’t mean shit in the future because I always feel people are going to use that as a reason for like killing someone or just doing something awful because “it won’t matter” but like don’t think I am saying that. I don’t want to be responsible for murder, but like you know what I mean. It is the things like caring what other people think about you and stuff like that. Trying to make others happy before yourself and that shit. We are all guilty of doing this and that’s fine because that is what we have learned and it isn’t our fault, but it is also ok because we can fix it, as long as it is for yourself. That is kinda why I like being single at this stage. I mean having someone that actually likes you must be nice, but I like the fact that I am free to fully figure myself out and think about myself as an individual and if a relationship comes from that then it is perfect. But from past experiences I know that having a partner can be kinda restrictive and, at least in my position, I always changed myself to be perfect for him and to not be myself. Maybe if you have a healthy relationship then that is different, but you need to think carefully about who you are with.

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And also, literally if that person remembers it for the rest of their life, maybe they laugh about how you panicked in a school play until the day they die, then that is only one life and you should move on with it because they will die one day and that is it. It won’t become a family tradition to carry on this story. And the embarrassing thing you did, you aren’t the first person to do that. I mean the earth is millions of years old and even in just the past 100 years, there have probably been millions of people that have done the same as you. What you also need to remind yourself is that if someone actually does hang onto that one thing you did ages ago and makes fun of it, they have no fucking life. I mean would a person who actually mattered focus on that thing everyday or would they move on with life and all the opportunities they will come to have. And the people who remember it and therefore have no life, shouldn’t worry you because it doesn’t make you less than them and you know the only reason they remember that is because they have made it their whole personality trait and that is the only bit of information they can actually keep in their pea sized brain.

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So yeah, I hope this boosted your confidence in some way and that you can come to terms with the reality of life and how eventually, just like humans, rumors will die. Stories die and you aren’t weird or dumb for what you did. But yeah, just don’t give a shit and you will be good I guess. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT

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The Maybe Story

Today I wanted to share a story with you guys that I heard a while back. It is a random story but yet it has a big meaning behind it. So grab a cuppa tea and enjoy.

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There was this old Chinese farmer who spent all of his days working on his crops, until one day his horse ran away. When the word got around, his neighbors would come over saying “that is so bad”, “that is so unlucky” and “we are so sorry”. And he would look at them, shrug and then say “maybe”. A few days later, he woke up to see his horse had come back and had brought more wild horses with it. Again, the neighbors found out and came running over to his farm shouting “this is so great”, “how lucky” and “you must be so happy”. And again, the farmer shrugged and said “maybe”. The next day, his son was riding one of the horses around the field, when it started leaping up and threw his son, breaking his leg. Just like clockwork, the neighbors came with sorry faces crying “this is awful”, “how unlucky” and “you must be sad”. Once again, he shrugged and said “maybe”. The next day the soldiers came around to each and every house, taking ever able young man to fight in the war. When they got to the farm, they took one look at the son and thought “he has a broken leg. He will be no good for us” and they drove off. Now all the neighbors came over. They were talking about how their sons were taken away and were rambling on about how lucky and happy he must be.

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You see, that whole time, his neighbors thought he was absolutely crazy because no matter what happened to him, he always reacted with “maybe”. He never assumed anything of a situation. And all the time, things changed, something bad came from the good, but something good happened from the bad. So instead of overthinking the negatives, and crying over everything, he saw it as fate, as though it needed to happen. Why I think this story is so great is because it shows that we can’t look at every situation in black and white. Every situation isn’t just good or bad. But if we do look at it in this way, life is going to get really tough because we don’t realise that things happen for a reason, and that maybe something like breaking your leg, will make such a difference on your future. So instead of feeling sorry for yourself, be like the farmer. We have no clue what is to come next or what it will do to our future, so we need to fix how we view situations. You could focus on the negatives, or you could look for the positives. Just don’ believe that your life sucks, because something great is just around the corner and we gotta wait for it. I believe everything happens for a reason, and if you are going through really tough shit right now, something great will come from it. I hope you have a great day, stay safe and stay yourself PERIODT


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